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Anne Wilson Schaef has written that if you are tempted to be dishonest you are addicted; even if you have not "yielded" to the temptation to be dishonest. True lovers are not even tempted to be dishonest, because they know that being dishonest is a sure way to undermine most personal and communal integrities which give meaning and significance to living and loving.
Domineering people who feel that they must be in control to be secure, are often tempted to be dishonest. Many become addicted to collusive games of mutual self deception, while trying to use coercion and violence to achieve security through invulnerability. Such efforts are tragically futile and hopeless, but domineering people do not dare break their collusion's rules by dealing honestly with the futility of their efforts. They would be rejected by their friends if they broke collusion rules! They dare not! Trying to stand together, they fall together.
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436 ADDICT 206 CONTROL 198 ADDICTION
153 ADDICTIVE 148 SIN 147 COLLUSION
145 LOVE 137 EVIL 130 CODEPENDENT
126 SELF 86 CODEPEND 80 INTEGRITY
80 COLLUSIVE 77 GOD 77 DOMINATION
74 CONFLICT 71 DISHONEST 68 HONEST
66 VIOLENCE 65 SYSTEM 62 PERSONAL
61 POWER 59 DISHONESTY 54 GOOD
53 COMMUNAL 53 CODEPENDENCE 47 LAW
47 ADDICTS 46 SALVATION 44 DECEPTION
44 ALIENATION 43 COLLUSIONS 43 ADDICTIONS
40 TRUTH 40 RESPECT 40 FEAR
40 COLLUDE 38 TRUE 38 RELATIONSHIPS
38 PEOPLE 38 FAIL 38 COERCION
37 RESOLUTION 37 RELIGIOUS 37 REFLEXIVE
35 SINS 35 OBJECTIVE 35 EXCLUSIVE
34 SEXUAL 34 PARADIGM 34 ARROGANCE
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2003. Such words point to considerations which are comp-
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