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Some fearful people are uncomfortable with others
unless the others recite formulas with the same degrees
of emphasis upon formulas --- as they themselves recite.
It is not enough that what others say is open,
honest, accurate and truthful. What others say must also
echo the proportions in what self and dear friends say.
Any contrast in proportional emphasis --- is taken as a
sign that the other person is insufficiently like self
and dear friends to be trusted. Disagreements over how
much time, concern and effort are placed upon what is said
--- can be just as important as on agreeing upon what is
said. It is often not enough that statements be beyond
a doubt open, honest, accurate and truthful --- if the
level of emphases is not close to the same. Risks
should not be taken with people who are not UNBALANCED
in the same way that we are UNBALANCED. We must
stand up for our conviction about the right way to be
UNBALANCED.
If we are to promote conflict-resolution, peace-
making and shalom --- we must understand the various
roots of conflict. Some people can tolerate many kinds
of differences between themselves and others. Other
people can tolerate very few kinds of differences between
themselves and others. The latter kinds of people are
prone to engender conflicts between themselves and other
people if differences relative to themselves are
intolerable; e.g. as regards:
TRIBAL ORIGIN NATIONAL ORIGIN
LANGUAGE CULTURE
RELIGION POLITICS
PRIORITIES INDIFFERENCES
PREOCCUPATIONS FEARS
FASCINATIONS FANTASIES
SCRIPTURES USED SCRIPTURES IGNORED
EDUCATIONAL LEVEL KIND OF EDUCATION
KIND OF EMPLOYMENT PROFESSIONAL WORK
HOW WEALTHY HOW SPEND MONEY
CAUSES SUPPORTED CAUSES IGNORED
SEXUAL ORIENTATION SEXUAL INDIFFERENCE
FRIENDS CHOSEN PEOPLE IGNORED
CONCERNS CHOSEN CONCERNS IGNORED
TRUTHS AFFIRMED TRUTHS DENIED
TRUTHS CONFUSED TRUTHS IGNORED
TRUTHS REPRESSED TRUTHS FEARED
GAMES PLAYED GAMES IGNORED
COLLUSIONS HONORED COLLUSIONS IGNORED
COLLUSIONS EXPOSED COLLUSIONS DESCRIBED
The above are suggestive of ways in which some
people may be unable to tolerate differences. Levels of
tolerance may well be along a continuous spectrum, rather
than either total-tolerance or total-intolerance. It may
help for us to keep in mind the very wide range of ways
in which people may be unable to tolerate differences
between themselves and others whom they may fear,
distrust, dislike, feel aversive toward, etc.
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