This is http://www.essayz.com/a9805161.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %INSTINCTIVE AUTHENTIC PEOPLE RELATIONSHIPS HONEST+980516 %INTEGRATIVE OPEN HONEST SECURE VULNERABLE DIALOGUE 980516 Some instinctively authentic people instinctively develop authentic personal relationships --- within which they enjoy security known and enjoyed as the freedom to be safely vulnerable within intimate relationships. Other people seek to develop systems of discipline and control --- for the purpose of trying to copy and guarantee the above kinds of relationships. The latter kinds of people fail to develop healthy relationships --- because they do not understand, respect or honor the many essential ingredients in healthy relationships; such as: 1. Respect for openness and honesty in relationships --- rather than for each individual's status, accomplishments and possessions. 2. Respect for personal and communal integrity in growing dynamic relationships --- rather than for coerced conformity to previously defined criteria for passing judgement. 3. Respect for balance and mutuality in healthy personal relationships --- rather than for purity within exclusive groups, societies, organizations, fraternities, guilds, churches, etc. 4. Respect for integration, dialogue, and cooperation --- rather than for segregation, exclusivity, alienation, and holy wars. The latter kinds of people often engender evil relationships through their efforts to copy, prescribe, and mandate goodness. They do not understand or facilitate authentic kinds of relationships --- because they are not kind in their efforts to do so. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================