This is http://www.essayz.com/a9805151.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COMPULSIVE PREOCCUPATION ISSUES CONTROL BEHAVIOR+980515 %ATTITUDE APPROACH ASSUMPTION BELIEF CONVICTION SIN+980515 %EXPERIENCE PERCEPTION THINK REASON LOGIC DESIRES+980515 %FEELING EMOTIONS ADDICTIONS COLLUSIONS DISHONESTY 980515 People who are preoccupied with issues of control (in the manner of addicts) often try to control people's behaviors without at the same time effectively controlling private aspects of their lives which engender their behaviors. They tacitly admit that most private aspects of our lives cannot be effectively controlled; but still demand that overt behaviors conform to their particular expectations, demands, requirements, laws, commandments, prohibitions, prescriptions, proscriptions, scriptures, etc. They demand that people behave in ways which mis- represent important private aspects of their lives. They demand that people be dishonest. Through their demands they undermine healthy contexts within which people might safely be true to themselves and each other --- in open and honest dialogue about their own experiences, perceptions, thinking, reasoning, logic, desires, feelings and emotions. People who are preoccupied with issues of control do not merit our trust, respect or support. Their behaviors usually lead to personal and communal fragmentation and disintegration --- because they lack personal integrity within themselves, and their exclusive communities lack communal integrity. They fail to honestly resolve their own internal conflicts, because of the lack in of integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================