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%YIELD TEMPTATION LETTING GO PREOCCUPATION CONTROLS+980504                                                           
   %CONFLICT ISSUES COERCION VIOLENCE MANAGE SYSTEM+980504           
%MORALISTIC SUPERIORITY BEST BETTER SELF OTHERS SIN 980504                                                      
                                                                                                                               
     Often  we  are taught and feel that we  should  never                                                                     
yield to  the temptation to let go of  our  preoccupations                                                            
with issues  of  control,  management,   discipline,   and                                                           
moralistic  superiority ---  for we are taught to  believe             
and  feel  that  our individualistic salvation depends  on                                                            
clinging to such preoccupations.   Such teachings, beliefs             
and  feelings  do  much to  undermine  both  communal  and                                                    
personal  integrity.     They are not  coherent  with  the                                                                 
realities of healthy personal and communal life.                                                                
                                                                                                                               
     People  who are driven by preoccupations with  issues                                                                    
of   control,   management,   discipline  and   moralistic                                                           
superiority ---  often  engage  in  coercive  and  violent           
patterns  of  behavior  ---   which  lead  to  resentment,                                                       
rebellion,      anger,      alienation,      estrangement,                                        
misunderstanding,   prejudice ---and so  to  personal  and                                                    
communal   disintegration.    Their   preoccupations   are                                                                
disintegrative; not integrative.  Their conceptions of the                               
nature of faithfulness and temptation are misleading. They   
often view evil as having to do with failures  to conform,            
rather than  as having to with  the break-down of open and                   
honest dialogue --- within contexts where  people  are and                
feel safe to be vulnerable in being true to themselves and    
each other.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     Temptation  has to do with conflicts between  ideals,                                         
values and goals.    Dichotomous people pretend that there                                                 
is only ONE definition of what is good,  ideal,   valuable                                         
and worthy of respect ---  and that to consider any  other               
alternative   is  to  yield  to  temptation.     They  are                                                                     
dishonest  about   the   existence   of  conflicts between                                              
respected complementary  ideals,  values and goals.   They                                      
pretend that life is always simple,   even in the face  of      
complexity.     They  lead people into collusive games  of  
mutual  self-deception  ---   and  so  into  personal  and 
communal disintegration.                                                                
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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