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 %LEARN CONSEQUENCES MISTAKEN DISINTEGRATIVE IDEALS+980120                                         
  %RESCUE DYSFUNCTIONAL ATTITUDES COMPULSIVE VALUES 980120                                                 
                                                                                                                               
     How  are  people  to learn from the  consequences  of                                               
their mistaken/disintegrative  ideals  and  values ---  if                                         
good friends  are always ready to step in and rescue  them      
when "things" go wrong?    How are "lessons" to be learned                                               
if the process of natural causes and effects  are confused   
by imprudent rescues.                                                                                                          
                                                                                                                               
     On  the  other hand,  how are people of good will  to                                               
stand  by  indifferent to the suffering and  damage  which                                     
they  see  coming  ---  because of  the  repeated  foolish                          
mistakes  which  some  people  seem grimly  determined  to                                                                    
illustrate over and over?    It is responsible to stand by                                  
and  see victims be victimized over and over ---  and  not                                                                     
step in to prevent repeated mistakes?     In what  way can      
people intervene effectively?                      
                                                                                                                               
     It   is  apparent  that  external  controls  do   not                                                           
guarantee that people will  behave wisely.   Proscriptions                                                       
and prescriptions  do not lead to conformal behavior which            
is open,  honest and effective --- rebellion, anger, rage,                                                                  
and deception are just as likely.  A better alternative is 
to engage in offering  charitable  descriptions which make                                                                     
clear what  is  happening ---  to  onlookers  if,   not to                                                                     
dysfunctional people.    Through descriptions at least the                                
dysfunctional  patterns of dis-eased behavior can be  kept                                                       
from  spreading to unwitting onlookers and victims who  do                                                                     
not understand what is happening to them.                                                    
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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