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  %COLLUSIVE CONTEND ADDICTS ADVANTAGE APPOINT SELF 971221                
                                                                                                                               
     People who  are  prone to participate  in  collusive-                           
contentious-addictive  behaviors have ways  of  converting      
healthy  and cooperative honest people to their  unhealthy                                                                  
and contentious ways of relating to others by:      
                                                                                                                               
     1.  Getting   elected/appointed   to   positions   of                                                                     
official power and influence.                                             
                                                                                                                               
     2.  Operating in  terms  of  tacit  prescriptions and                                                                     
proscriptions  which are part of collusive games of mutual                            
self  deception  in the manner of addicts and  codependent 
supporters.                                                                                                                    
                                                                                                                               
     3.  Enforcing  tacit prescriptions and  proscriptions                                                                     
via  threats of exclusion,  excommunication,   banishment,                       
etc.                                                                                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     4.  Including in   the   tacit   prescriptions    and                                                                     
proscriptions (many  which  forbid  involvement  in  human               
activities)  which are essential to personal  and communal                  
integrity ---  for such activities are threats against the                                                                   
apparent  integrity of the collusive games of mutual  self                            
deception. 
                                                                                                                               
     5.  When  open and honest intimate people violate the                     
rules  against activities which are essential to  personal                  
and  communal integrity --- punish them in ways which make      
it clear to the faint-hearted that they had better not  be                                                                     
so  disobedient.   Others will learn that it is better  to                                                               
join  in the games of mutual self-deception than to try to 
buck-the-tide.    Others will thus surrender in one way or      
another.                                                               
                                                                                                                               
     a.  They will become rebellious and contentious in                
         overt conflicts against the contentious people                
         whom they despise.   They will have become like                                                                       
         the contentious people whom they despise.                
                                                                                                                               
                            or                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                               
     b.  They will become secretive, deceptive and 
         misleading in their dealings with the contentious                
         people  --- and so become like the contentious                
         people whom they despise.                                                                    
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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