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%FIND COMMON GROUND INCREASE REDUCE OUR OWN SELF 970608
To help our communities find common ground in the
midst of misunderstandings and conflicts, we need to focus
upon what we can contribute individually by:
I. Increasing our own contributions to:
A. Reconciliation
B. Mutual Understanding
C. Peacemaking
D. True Conflict Resolution
E. Listening Skills
II. Decreasing our own contributions to:
A. Alienation
B. Estrangement
C. Misunderstanding
D. Conflict generation
E. Conflict extension
F. Deafness
G. Blindness
When we seek to do the above we are likely to be
unjustly and unfairly:
Rejected Alienated Estranged Reviled
Persecuted Criticized Judged Condemned
Accused Charged Discharged Belittled
We need to recognize when people engender alienation
out of fearful self-righteousness by being manipulative
people who seek to be in control in the manner of addicts.
Such people fear open and honest descriptions of the roles
in their lives of:
Fears Alienation Emotions Anger
Resentment Condemnations Excommunication Rejections
Dishonesty Deceptions Collusions Secrecy
Because such people fear descriptions of the above
aspects in human lives, they fear it when others:
Discern Recognize Escape-from See-clearly
Let-go-of Transcend Become-free-of Hear-clearly
or in any way are liberated from the fear of such honest
descriptions. Such people use fear, alienation,
excommunications, collusions and addictive maneuvers to
inhibit open and honest descriptions which will expose
their dishonesty and vulnerability; especially as regards:
Friendships Intimacy Togetherness Honesty
Desires Sexuality Needs Integrity
In order to find common ground, we usually need more
of what is pointed to below on the left, and less of what
is pointed to below on the right:
More Less
Rainbows Dichotomies
Balance Extremism
Clarity Confusion
Understanding Mis-understanding
Sympathy Demands
Cooperation Competition
Humility Self-righteousness
Mutuality Superiority
Gentleness Assertiveness
Forgiveness Judgementalism
Servants Managers
Liberation Imprisonment
I-messages You-messages
I-will-do You-must-do
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