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     We  often prefer familiar boredom,   tedium,   ennui,
pain,  anxieties and fear---over all that is unfamiliar---
including: change, growth, transformations, transcendence,
love,   freedom,  liberation,  escape,  revolutions,   and
repentance.      When in doubt,  we seek to keep  what  is
familiar---no  matter how bad it is.   When in doubt,   we
avoid  what  in unfamiliar---no matter how much better  it
would  be.    We  cling  to the familiar,   and  run  from
whatever  is unfamiliar---to maintain the familiar  status
quo.

     Our best friends will wonder what has come over us if
we do not cling to them and their familiar,  but pain-full
ways.    How  will we explain to them why we want to  make
changes?   They would not understand or accept us.

     Our  religious associates will ask why we  are  going
astray---if  we  do not cling with them to their  familiar
certainties, dogmas, rituals, traditions, sayings, habits,
attitudes, assumptions, fears, expectations, and conformal
ways.  How can we justify ourselves to them in the face of
their  bafflement  over any decision by us to  repent  and
change  our ways,  and leave their ways?   They would  not
understand or accept us!

     Our  addictive  friends and  co-dependent  supporters
will  be  baffled if we seek to change and give  up  their
"friendships" and "fixes-for-whatever-is-wrong-with-us-as-
persons".   They will be threatened if we do not work with
them to "fix" our defective "souls".   How will we be able
to live with abandoning them and with threatening them?

     If  we permit change and growth to occur   (which  we
do not understand,  cannot predict and cannot hope/plan to
control)    how  are  we  to maintain  proper  control  of
outcomes in order to justify ourselves;   so as to qualify
for  acceptance  and salvation before God and all  of  the
heavenly angels?

     It  is better for us to aim to achieve a perfect  and
permanent  state  of having arrived---a state in which  no
change  or growth is needed or called for.   Then we  will
not be threatened by the need to grow-up or change;  or by
reasonable calls for us to repent, change or grow.

     We will have "arrived."   It will be up to others who
disagree with us to:     change, accommodate,  give-a-lot,
sacrifice,  concede, surrender, admit mistakes, apologize,
etc.

     Because  we will have arrived,  there will be no need
to   change   in   regards   to:    doctrines,     dogmas,
interpretations   of   scriptures,    religious   rituals,
decision-making-processes,  power distribution,   old-boy-
networks, rights, duties and/or privileges.

     Now, if only we could get the rest of the universe to
stop  changing---all would be in order and there would  be
no chaotic processes to disturb us and our tranquility.

                                                                                                                               
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