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 %INTERDEPENDENCY COMMUNAL PERSONAL INTEGRITY WANTS 970115

     To   be  fully  human  we  need  supportive  communal
contexts.  Perversions of the need for supportive communal
contexts  often  entail expecting others to do  for  one's
self what only one's self can do.

     1.  People  may  expect others to authenticate  them,
when they have not been authentic persons by failing to be
true   to  themselves  and  others  in  open  and   honest
relationships.

     2.  People  may expect others to compensate for their
own failure to take good care of themselves in responsible
ways which are responsive to their own basic needs.

     3.  People  may expect others to compensate for their
failure  to  engage in productive work  activities  ---and
support them with excessive generosity.

     4.  People may expect others to compensate for  their
own lack of self esteem --- through constantly saying nice
things to them which may not be entirely true.

     5.  People  may expect others to "validate"  them  as
conforming to some unspoken standards of personal validity
---in  compensation  for their own  failure  to  transcend
forms  of conformity and be their own person in their  own
unique way.

     None  of these expectations contribute positively  to
the   fulfillment   of  basic  human  needs   in   healthy
interdependent  ways.    These expectations contribute  to
unhealthy forms of dependency which blind the dependent to
the  nature of their inadequacies and what they need to do
to fulfill their potentials.

                                                                                                                               
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