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     Humans are finite creatures who are unable to do  all
that  they imagine.   Human imagination is more  expansive
than humans' ability to fulfill all that is imagined.

     Much  has  seemed  to be  impossible,   but  is  then
achieved  through highly  focused  human  effort---at  the
expense of not achieving much else which might  have  been
achieved were it not for the highly focused effort.  A few
apparently impossible achievements may be within reach for
each person;  but there is always a limit to how many very
difficult  achievements a human can cram into  one  finite
lifetime  of  less than 200  years.   Accomplishing a  few
difficult  achievements  is no proof that an  infinity  of
such difficult achievements is possible for any one human.

     Humans can be intimate friends and lovers with only a
finite number of other persons.   There is only a  limited
amount of time,  energy and attention.  People who pretend
otherwise  are  not honest persons of integrity  and  they
often act in ways which undermine other people's  personal
and communal integrity.   Pretending to be able to do what
cannot be done is not a great achievement.   The question,
of  course,  is to discern what each person is able to  do
and to know how to make use of such discernment.  Further,
it  is  not usually helpful for us to try to discern  what
other  people are able to do and to constrain them to  try
to do only what has been "discerned"  they are able to do.
Personal  descriptions are more likely to be helpful  than
are prescriptions and proscriptions which are not grounded
in personal experience.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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