This is http://www.essayz.com/a9701061.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %BEING TRUE SELF SEDUCED MANIPULATIVE PARADIGM SIN+970106 %ADVANTAGE VULNERABLE SECURITY DEFENSIVE VIOLENCE 970106 Manipulative people seek to seduce others away from being truly themselves; i.e., being true to themselves and others. Skilled manipulators find it easy to manipulate people who have recently been seduced away from being truly themselves---for such novices are not skilled in the subtleties of collusive games of mutual self deception. Such novices find themselves caught in double binds wherein they cannot be effectively deceptive---because they have not yet fully given up their former ideals of personal honesty and personal integrity. They operate at a manipulative-disadvantage compared to experienced deceivers. Beware of thinking that by sacrificing your honesty and integrity you can gain a manipulative advantage over more experienced manipulators. Experienced deceivers will be better at deceiving you---than you will be at deceiving them. Also, keep in mind that the more experienced you become the more crazy your life becomes--- because you cannot count on any of your friends to be open and honest with you. They, and you, are all playing collusive games of mutual self deception, and nobody can be counted upon to be what they appear to be. It is a crazy life! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================