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   %CONTAGIOUS DISINTEGRATIVE FEAR SHAME GUILT EVIL+961204
    %DISEASE ADDICTION CODEPENDENCE COLLUSIVE GAMES+961204
   %OBJECTIONS ANXIETY SELF OTHER RISK TRUST BEHAVE 961204

     On many occasions fear, shame, guilt and anxiety lead
us into disintegrative patterns of assumptions, attitudes,
perceptions, beliefs, convictions and behaviors.

     On  some occasions fear,  shame,   guilt and  anxiety
lead us to behave wisely and prudently.

     Our  dilemma is to distinguish between occasions---to
recognize those occasions in which contagious fear,  same,
guilt and anxiety are prone to mislead us.

     Often  we  are  dominated by  other  people's  fears,
shame, guilt  and anxiety.   Others may INVITE us to share
their misleading fears,  shame,  guilt and anxiety.    Yet
others may DEMAND that we modify our behaviors in order to
accommodate to  their fears, shame, guilt and anxiety.  In
such occasions fears, shame,  guilt and  anxiety  act much
like   biological  infectious  agents  (amoebae,    germs,
bacteria, viruses, molds, prions, etc.) which "cause" many
of our diseases.    However, many of our diseases are just
as much "caused" by contagious fears,   shame,   guilt and
anxiety---as by biological micro-organisms.

     When do other people have the RIGHT TO DEMAND that we
modify our behaviors because of their fears, shame,  guilt
and anxiety?   When they are clinically paranoid?     When
they are uninformed?   When they are confused?   When they
are collusive?    When they are otherwise being dishonest?
Whey  they  have unreasonable expectations of  us?    Only
fools would grant such rights!   How are we to distinguish
between  such  clear-cut-cases---and  the  more  ambiguous
and/or paradoxical cases?

     How  are  we and others to recognize with  confidence
the occasions when fears,  shame,  guilt and  anxiety  are
very   likely   to  lead  to  integrative    patterns   of
assumptions, attitudes, perceptions,  beliefs, convictions
and behaviors.   We need to work to create secure contexts
within  which it is safe for all people to engage in  open
and honest dialogue about how to recognize such occasions;
else we will not be able to recognize them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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