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  %CORRELATION ASSOCIATION VULNERABLE SECURE HONEST+960514
   %DISINTEGRATION GIFT FREEDOM TRUTH HEALTH ADDICT+960514
    %COLLUSIVE GAME SELF DECEPTION CONFLICT RESOLVE 960514

     Within   healthy   communities   which    DO    enjoy
integrity---honest   people   GIVE  EACH  OTHER  the  free
GIFT  OF BEING SECURE within  relationships  which  entail
high levels of vulnerability.  Therein openness,  honesty,
vulnerability, and true security  are associated with each
other  in  INTEGRATIVE WAYS which are ENJOYED BY PEOPLE of
INTEGRITY.

     Within  unhealthy  communities  which  DO  NOT  enjoy
integrity---dishonest  people  MANIPULATE  EACH  OTHER  in
DEFENSIVE  WAYS which make for relationships which  entail
high levels of vulnerability.  Therein openness,  honesty,
vulnerability   and   violence  are associated  with  each
other  in  DISINTEGRATIVE  WAYS  which  PAIN   PEOPLE  who
ARE DISINTEGRATING.

     The  above two situations entail contrasts which  are
highlighted by the care with which words have been  chosen
and positioned in the text; line by line.

     Within     healthy   communities   which   DO   enjoy
integrity---the  kinds  of honesty which are  enjoyed  and
encouraged  go far beyond what  is  taken  to  be  honesty
within unhealthy communities.   In fact,  within unhealthy
communities it is nearly  impossible to  conceive  of  the
possibility of the kinds of honesty which are enjoyed  and
encouraged  within healthy communities---for  they  entail
levels  of  fearful vulnerability  which  are  intolerable
within unhealthy communities.  They are intolerable due to
the fear of pain which  is promised to people who  violate
the  threatening rules of the collusive  games  of  mutual
self   deception   which   often  characterize   unhealthy
communities.

     Within  unhealthy  community the following  kinds  of
honesty are often inconceivable:

     1.  Honesty about personal mistakes made.

     2.  Honesty about unconventional desires, needs,
   hopes, aspirations and expectations.

     3.  Honesty about fears, confusion, doubts and
   convictions which are taboo.

     4.  Honesty about points of vulnerability in general.

     5.  Honesty about desires for personal intimacy and
   affection.

     6.  Honesty about sexual desires, visions, fantasies,
   dreams, and fears.

     7.  Honesty about one's own emotional availability.

     8.  Honesty about one's own personal commitments.

     9.  Honesty about one's own limitations & abilities.

     10.  Honesty about one's own ignorance and confusion.

     The  process  of peacemaking and  community  building
entails  resolving the conflicts which make it  impossible
to conceive of the above kinds of honesty within unhealthy
communities.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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