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   %DISPLEASE SECOND CLASS PEOPLE BETTER FIRST CAST 960418

     How is  it possible for some people to  make sense of
their ready willingness to displease many people; i.e., to
act  in  ways which are harmful,   coercive,   violent and
contrary to  the  wishes  of many people?   How is one  to
decide which people it makes sense to displease, and which
people it does not  make sense to displease?   It does not
make sense to  be ready to displease all people.   How can
we tell the difference?

     Most  people  who   willingly  displease  some people
operate within a  paradigm where to them it makes sense to
classify people into two groups.   The First-class  people
are the people whom one seeks to please.  The Second-class
people are people whom it makes no sense to try to please.
The   only   problem   is  to  devise   some   basis   for
classification.    It is much  easier than  to  deal  with
people  on  the basis of their class than on the basis  of
their   individual   needs,   desires,   expressions   and
behaviors.

     Simple-minded people  who  cannot  deal honestly with
real complexity often  insist on over-simplifying reality.
They cannot be honest about complex  situations. They  try
to t urn complex situations into simple situations through
the use of simple classification systems.  All people thus
get classified into two classes:  First-class  people whom
one   seeks  to  please.    Second-class  people  who  are
dismissed as of no count and so as expendable. First-class
people  are friends.    Second-class  people  are enemies.
Such  a classification  system seems to meet the needs  of
simple-minded people;  but it does not make life simple---
for  it  engenders  endless  conflict  between  people  of
different  classes,  casts,  races,  religions,   economic
conditions and education levels.

     Dishonest  classification  systems  engender  endless
alienation, conflict and violence.

     Dishonest people do not  have reliable facts in terms
of which to make decisions.

     Dishonest people are not wise people.

     Dishonest people are not reliable people.

     Dishonest people do not learn from their mistakes.

     It is foolish to respect dishonest people.

     It is foolish to let dishonest people set agendas.

     It is foolish to follow  the lead of dishonest people
in patterns of personal relationships.

     It  is  foolish  to  copy  the  coercive  and violent
patterns of behavior of dishonest people;  to get into the
gutter  with  them to deal with them  as  they  deal  with
others.

     When we deal with dishonest people in their manner---
we  become just  like them and do not see clearly what  we
have become.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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