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%AFFIRM PREOCCUPATION ISSUES CONTROL EXCLUSIVE GOOD+960418
 %PERSONAL COMMUNAL DISINTEGRATION LETTING GO RELAX 960418

     If the only  occasions  in  which  our  community and
closest others affirm  us pertain to our being preoccupied
with issues of control---it is natural for  us to learn to
be preoccupied with issues  of control to the exclusion of
complementary concerns and issues.

     If we encounter embarrassment,  consternation,  fear,
anxiety,   anger,   criticism,   rejection  and/or  excom-
munication when we fail to be preoccupied with  issues  of
control---it is natural  for us to learn to be preoccupied
with issues of control to  the  exclusion of complementary
concerns and issues.

     If  we  are  never loved within the  context  of  our
having let go of preoccupations with issues  of control---
it is natural to be calculative, defensive,  manipulative,
and preoccupied with issues of control.

     In each of the above cases preoccupations with issues
of control  lead  to alienation,  estrangement, ignorance,
misinformation,   confusion---and  so  to  an inability to
learn from mistakes made.

     Each  of  the  above  cases  is  an  instance  of the
operation  of a  dysfunctional  paradigm  which  leads  to
personal and communal disintegration.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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