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%NEGATIVITY VICTIM LIFE STYLE DISINTEGRATIVE TRAGIC+960221
%COLLUSIVE GAME MUTUAL SELF DECEPTION DISHONEST END 960221

     Negativity  as  a  personal life style  is  obviously
disintegrative.     Yet,   many  intelligent  people   are
seemingly successful in rationalizing  negativity.    They
are  smart  enough  and  diligent  enough  to  make  their
obviously  disintegrative life style seem to be  rationale
to people like themselves.

     The  great  feat of rationalization of negativity  is
accomplished through the playing of sophisticated games of
mutual  self  deception.    The  games  entail   intricate
patterns   of  dishonest  cooperation  and   mutual   self
deception;  i.e., collusions.  The rationalizations are so
difficult to achieve that it seems unreasonable to believe
that  anyone  would  seek to achieve them just to  make  a
disintegrative life style to appear to be respectable.

     If  one has started life within the context of people
who  are  victims, and who have learned to cope  with  the
challenges of being victims, there can be reasonable pride
in rationalizing,  making sense of,  being victims.   Once
that rationalization skill has evolved to a high level the
technical skill can seek new  challenges.   People who are
not necessarily real  victims  can  acquire  the technical
skill  of rationalizing the condition of appearing  to  be
victims---in the absence of real victimization.    Then to
demonstrate their skill they appear to be victims and seek
to rationalize their appearance of being victims.

     If  we  are  appear to be  victims  of  a  conspiracy
against us by a lot of mean people, that appearance may be
to us a sign of how important we are.   If a lot of people
are focusing a  lot  of  attention  upon  us---we  must be
important, significant,  and worthy of a lot of attention.
We  can  get a high from believing that we merit all  that
negative  attention.     We can get a high by being clever
enough to rationalize the appearance that  so many  people
consider   us   important  enough  to  spend  their   time
victimizing us.    In addition we can get a high by  being
clever enough to rationalize something so absurd; and make
the whole process seem worthy of a high level of respect.

     In the end we judge our behavior as worthy of respect
because we have made it appear respectable in spite of the
fact  that it is tragically disintegrative.    That is why
and how we come to our tragic end.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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