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    %HUMAN DILEMMAS PROBLEMS VULNERABILITY SECURITY+960201
  %DEFENSE INTIMACY MEANING SIGNIFICANCE HONOR LOVE+960201
 %OBJECTIVE REFLEXIVE UNDERSTANDING CONTROL ACHIEVE 960201

     We are trapped in a double-bind-prison if we believe;
without   any  chance  of  doubt  or  uncertainty,    that
exclusively   objective  tools  are  the  sure  means   to
overcoming  our   human   dilemmas   with   vulnerability,
insecurity,      defensiveness,     intimacy,     meaning,
significance, honor, love,  sexuality, birth and death. We
cannot be liberated from our double-bind-prison so long as
we cling to the bars of  the  prison---the objective tools
which we believe will enable us to  overcome our reflexive
dilemmas.

     Vulnerability,  insecurity, defensiveness,  intimacy,
meaning,  significance, honor, love, sexuality,  birth and
death---are all reflexive in  character as  well as having
objective  aspects.   None of them can be overcome through
the use of exclusively objective tools;  for none of  them
are  exclusively objective in character---just as none  of
them are exclusively reflexive in character.

     It  is our dedication to exclusivity which  imprisons
us.    Paradigms  which  promote  exclusivity  and  narrow
visions imprison us.   We  cannot cope satisfactorily with
realities  which  entail  both  objective  and   reflexive
aspects---if we refuse to deal honestly with some of their
essential  aspects.   We cannot cope satisfactorily if  we
refuse  to be open and honest about the various aspects of
all that we need to cope with.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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