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%SELF CONTROL EXTENT ENVIRONMENT OTHER DEFINE BOUND+960129
%CONFINE OWN PERFECT INFLUENCE SHARP BOUNDARIES GOD+960129
 %CONCEIVE CONVICTION KNOWLEDGE POWER PARADIGM LOVE+960129
 %COLLUSION DELUSION DECEPTION DISHONESTY INTEGRATE 960129

     Self can CONTROL other---only to the extent that self
can control the environment  of that other  which is to be
controlled.

     As it is with  CONTROL above---so also it is when the
words  DEFINE,   BOUND,   CONFINE,  OWN  and  PERFECT  are
substituted in turn---in the place of the word CONTROL.

     CONTROLLING,  DEFINING,  BOUNDING, CONFINING,  OWNING
and PERFECTING---all entail putting  boundaries around the
other;   and  seeking to control all  possible  influences
which   might  cross  those  boundaries;   lest  there  be
influences other than those of self.

     If influences  of others than self  cross  boundaries
defined by self---there is not total control by self;  and
so  self  cannot  conceive  self  to  be  God  with   full
conviction, knowledge and power over GOOD and EVIL; and so
cannot  be in full knowledge and  control over who is GOOD
and who is EVIL.   Thus the paradigm of total self control
of  others  fails.    So also the paradigm of  total  self
control of self fails.

     The  paradigm  of total self control  is  a  delusive
and/or collusive game of self deception and/or mutual self
deception.    This  is  true  at  the  organizational  and
national levels---as well as at the personal level.

                   - - - -

     Once  the  futility  of the paradigm  of  total  self
control  is acknowledged---it becomes possible to work  to
facilitate  open  and  honest  awareness,    recognitions,
naming, descriptions and dialogue pertaining to  essential
aspects  of  our  environments;   and  pertaining  to  the
relationships which influence  us  most.   In sharing such
truths  freely we become liberated from, and so free from,
the futilities of the paradigm of total self control.

     Our  true influence extends only as far as our honest
efforts to be aware of,  recognize, name,  describe and be
in open and honest dialogue with the  essential aspects of
our environment and our relationships therewith.

     The  more  we  try to  control---the  less  our  true
influence extends beyond our selves.    The more we search
for  integrity and honesty---the more our  true  influence
extends beyond our selves.   Making the choices which make
the  difference is always a reflexive process---from which
we   cannot  honestly  detach  our  selves  as   objective
controllers.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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