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   %MANDATORY MEAN ADDICTIVE COERCIVE EVIL BEHAVIOR+960202
 %MANIPULATIVE VIOLENT DISHONEST DECEPTIVE PERVERSE+960202
  %DISINTEGRATIVE DYSFUNCTIONAL CODEPENDENT SUPPORT 960202

     There  are  various levels/depths of  involvement  in
supporting   dysfunctional/addictive   people   in   their
destructive patterns of behavior:

     1.  Compensating for their lack of performance and/or
failure to take good care of themselves;   doing their job
and/or  taking  care of them,  when they should take  good
care of themselves.

     2.  Buying  into  their game of  playing  victim  and
overtly or tacitly supporting their view of themselves  as
victim---excusing  them  from doing for themselves,   what
only they can do for themselves.

     3.  Concealing from self and  others the grim reality
of the various dysfunctional/addictive  behavior patterns,
destructions,  failures,  self-deception,  confusion,  and
dishonesty.

     4.  Working to  make  the dysfunctional person appear
to be worthy of high levels of respect---above the  levels
of respect appropriate for most "average" persons.

     5.  Doing  the  bidding of the  dysfunctional  person
even    while   recognizing   that   their   bidding    is
dysfunctional,    destructive,   disintegrative,   unjust,
dishonest and often outright criminal in nature.

     6.  Willingly    becoming   an   imitator   of    the
dysfunctional persons' patterns of perceptions, attitudes,
assumptions, beliefs, convictions  and behaviors.

     7.  Willfully  coercing others to become involved  in
and   to   engage  in  the   dysfunctional   patterns   of
perceptions, attitudes, assumptions,  beliefs, convictions
and behaviors.

     There  are  people trapped at various places  in  the
above  spectrum  in  situations,   including:   terrorists
groups,  inner city gangs,  organized international crime,
criminal   business  endeavors,    political   corruption,
religious corruption,  fanatical fundamentalism,   corrupt
professionals, technocratic extremists, etc.

     In  each instance we need to learn how to  recognize,
name,  describe,  talk about, and respond with Love to the
dishonest/disintegrative aspects of peoples' dysfunctional
patterns  of behavior---without buying into their ways  of
dealing  with  other  people destructively;   rather  than
constructively.    If we deal with them in ways which  are
echoes of  their  ways---we  have surrendered to  them and
become like them.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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