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   %DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP APPEARANCE TRUE LOVE 951205

     People   who   are   together  in   a   dysfunctional
relationship are often confused and think that they are in
love.

     In dysfunctional relationships confusion,  deception,
dishonesty, coercion; and preoccupations with appearances,
perfection  and  control are common.   Excitement  may  be
high,  or on a roller coaster.   Similarly, for conviction
and self esteem.

     People  "in  love"  in dysfunctional ways  are  often
preoccupied  with  what they think needs to be  fixed  and
with  the perceived means by which to fix what they  think
needs  to be fixed.   Dysfunctional people are often drawn
together  in  dysfunctional relationships of addiction and
codependence   through  their  efforts  to  gain  personal
advantage in the absence of real love---and feel and think
that   the  stimulation  and  excitement  of  their  joint
struggles  with each other are signs of true love.    Yet,
they do not know each other openly and honestly,  or  know
how  to recognize true love or its absence---for they  are
not  familiar with true love;  and are too close to  their
collusive games of mutual self-deception to recognize them
from the inside.

     See the essay following.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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