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%FRUSTRATED STAGE DIRECTOR IMAGINARY DRAMA REHEARSE+951204
   %DISINTEGRATIVE VIOLENCE COERCION CONTROL MANAGE 951204

     In   preparing   for   real  human   encounters   and
relationships  we often play out in our minds an imaginary
drama as a stage director of a play that we  are trying to
write.    If we have difficulty in distinguishing  between
(and/or  accepting the differences between) our  imaginary
dramas  and  real life;  we are likely to  get  frustrated
when---in real life---the scenes of our real life drama do
not  develop as we intend/expect.   If our frustration  is
great, and our emotional maturity is small,  we may resort
to disintegrative acts of violence.

     Our  frustration in life is likely to be great if  we
spend  more time rehearsing in our minds the scenes of our
imaginary   dramas  than  we  spend  in  real-life   human
relationships  ---learning  the  scope of our  ability  to
influence   the  course  of  events  in  real-life   human
relationships.     If  we  learn  to  feel  (in  extensive
imaginary rehearsals) that we can  be in  control,  we are
likely  to  be deeply disappointed when in  real life  our
carefully reversed drams do not play out as we planned for
them to play out.

     Imaginary  rehearsals  can be useful in life ---   if
there is a balance between how much of a focus there is on
imaginary  rehearsals, and how much of a focus there is on
real-life activities and our understanding of our roles as
equal participants in real-life activities.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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