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  %KEYS COMMUNAL ACCEPTANCE FELLOWSHIP RESPECT WORK+950502
  %ACHIEVEMENTS SKILLS KNOWLEDGE COMPETENCE BELIEFS+950502
    %RITUALS PROFESSION CONFORMITY COLLUSION ADDICT+950502
             %DILEMMA TECHNICAL PROBLEM DOUBLE BIND 950502

     Many communities depend upon tacitly agreed upon keys
to communal acceptance,  fellowship and respect.    People
who  do not have the required keys to communal acceptance,
fellowship  and respect---are outsiders.   People  without
the  required  keys  are not accepted as  members  of  the
community, and are rejected if they lose their keys.

     The  keys  to communal  acceptance,   fellowship  and
respect vary from community to community.  The common keys
may be pointed to by words such as:

     Achievements          Knowledge          Skills

     Beliefs               Reputations        Appearances

     Enthusiasm            Energy             Powers

     In  differing communities the foci of what the  above
words  point to will differ even though the nature of  the
keys  may  be similar, in keeping with the similarities in
the words which point to the nature of the keys.

     People   are   often   insecure  and   defensive   in
communities  where it is implicit that a  member  will  be
rejected  by  the community if the member  fails  to  keep
their  keys  to their inclusion in the community  "shiny",
"up-to-date",   and  otherwise  in keeping  with  changing
standards.  Membership in such a community is conditional.
The conditions for continued membership may be continually
changing in ways which are not clearly defined.   A member
who  cannot  figure  out  what  the  continually  changing
conditions   for   continued  membership  are---will   not
qualify   for    continued   membership.      Under   such
circumstances  many members  are likely to feel  insecure,
ill-at-ease,     dis-eased,   defensive,    and  prone  to
coercive manipulations and violence.

     The frustrations  associated with   membership  in  a
conditional  community  are  heightened if  the  community
cannot  and will  not  openly and honestly talk about  the
reasons for, and the  consequences  of, the conditions for
continued membership in their community.   It may be taboo
to talk about reflexive realities and relationships.   The
members  may be engaged in collusive games of mutual  self
deception.     The   community   may   be   an   addictive
organization.    In  any  such  case the  members  of  the
community  are unable to learn from their tragic mistakes,
and are doomed to personal and communal disintegration  as
they   try   to  maintain  their   membership   in   their
dysfunctional community.

     The dilemma of communities in which the focus is upon
keys  to acceptance will not be transcended so long as the
members  of the community continue to focus upon  keys  to
acceptance.    The  dilemma of the communities  is  not  a
technical  problem pertaining to the choice of which  keys
to   acceptance  to focus upon---or how  to  maintain  the
proper keys  to  acceptance.     The  dilemma   originates
in   the  acceptance   of   the   ideals,     values   and
assumptions  associated  with  accepting/rejecting  people
in  terms  of keys to acceptance.   There is no  technical
solution  to  the dilemma,  because the dilemma is  not  a
technical problem.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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