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%PREREQUISITE OPEN HONEST INTEGRATIVE BEHAVIOR SELF+950402
 %OTHER DOUBLE BIND COLLUSIVE ADDICTION CODEPENDENT 950402

     What  are  the  prerequisites  to  open  and   honest
behavior?   Under what circumstances, in what contexts, is
it reasonable to expect people to be open and honest?

     1.  Not  if  people are REGULARLY PUNISHED for  being
open   and  honest  about  their  experiences,   emotions,
beliefs, desires and aspirations!

     2.  Not  if  people  are  regularly  EXPECTED  to  be
dishonest and secretive about their experiences, emotions,
desires, beliefs and aspirations!

     3.  Not  if ADDICTS and their CODEPENDENT  SUPPORTERS
are regularly chosen to be: business  leaders,   political
leaders,    religious   leaders,    educational   leaders,
professional leaders, etc!

     4.  Not  if  people relate to each other in terms  of
preoccupations with:  being in CONTROL, who is in CONTROL,
how to achieve CONTROL, etc!

     5.  Not if the pervasive message is that what  counts
is  APPEARING   to  be   in   CONFORMITY   with   communal
expectations!

     6.  Not  if PEOPLE WHO ARE TRUE TO THEMSELVES AND  TO
OTHERS are: ostracized,  excommunicated, disfellowshipped,
ignored, shunned, passed over, demoted, avoided, etc!

     7.  Not  if  PERSONAL  AND  COMMUNAL  INTEGRITY   ARE
REGULARLY  SACRIFICED  UPON  THE ALTERS  OF  THE  GODS of:
personal    advancement,    greed,     self-righteousness,
arrogance, perfectionism, piety, religiosity,  militarism,
fundamentalism, nationalism, ethnic superiority, etc!

     8.  Not  if  POWERFUL  PEOPLE REGULARLY  WORSHIP  THE
TOOLS of:  science,  technology,  manipulation,  coercion,
violence,   war,  terrorism and being in control---without
regard for the personal  and communal disintegration which
such worship engenders.

     9.  Not  if power,  wealth and luxury when juxtaposed
next to  impotence,  poverty and deprivation are OCCASIONS
FOR   PRIDE   AND  ENVY  which  are  not   recognized   as
disintegrative of persons and communities.

     10.  Not if PEOPLE ARE DISINTERESTED in searching for
integrity  and honesty in being true to themselves,  whole
and healthy.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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