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 %BOUNDARY FEARS COMPULSIONS HUMAN LIMIT LIMITATION 950123

     Because  of  our human limits and  limitations  there
must be boundaries operative in our human lives.   Not all
imaginable possibilities are really possible, responsible,
prudent, wise, integrative, and worthy of our respect.

     Not all  imaginable possibilities merit our  desires.
Neither  do all imaginable possibilities merit our  fears.
How  are  we  to distinguish between  those  possibilities
which merit our desires and fears, and those which do not?

     How  are we to prudently and wisely place  boundaries
upon  our desires and fears so as to promote both personal
and  communal integrity?   How are we to place  boundaries
upon the ways in which unarticulated fears,   compulsions,
anxieties, attitudes, assumptions, beliefs and convictions
limit our creative and integrative possibilities.

     Not  all  boundaries  merit  our  respect---for  many
boundaries  imprison  us in keeping with the rules of  our
collusive games of  mutual  self  deception.   Many of our
boundaries  are created unwisely by  our imprudent: fears,
compulsions,  anxieties,  attitudes, assumptions,  beliefs
and convictions---which would not merit respect where they
discussed  openly  and  honestly within the context  of  a
truly  secure community, generated by the free exchange of
gifts  of true security known as the freedom to be  safely
vulnerable.

     As an open and honest community engaged in dialogue--
 we   need   to  draw  boundaries  to  keep   our   fears,
compulsions,  anxieties, attitudes,  assumptions,  beliefs
and convictions bounded by dialogue which is open, honest,
informed, and secured as safely vulnerable by the exchange
of the gifts of the freedom to be safely vulnerable.

     It  is not prudent or wise to allow ourselves  to  be
driven   and   guided  by  our  unarticulated   fears  and
compulsions,  or by other people's unarticulated fears and
compulsions.   Prudence and wisdom demand that we seek the
articulation of the fears and compulsions which drive  and
guide us; yet our collusive games of mutual self deception
demand  that  they  remain hidden and  powerful  in  their
disintegrative  ways.    We need to seek and find ways  to
transcend  such collusive blocks to personal and  communal
integrity.

     See  the next essay about diseases and  treatment  of
them.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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