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%DISHONEST ENJOYMENT FULFILLMENT SATISFACTION TRUTH 941018

     Uncoerced  honesty  is  essential   to our enjoyment,
fulfillment and satisfaction in any endeavor.

     Honesty cannot be coerced.  Only addictive people try
to  coerce  honesty  to get  powerless  people  to  become
vulnerable to them, so that they can take advantage of the
powerless  people.   The common response to such addictive
coercion  is  to try to avoid all forms of  vulnerability.
This makes true security impossible, because true security
is  the  acceptance  of and exercise of the  gift  of  the
freedom to be safely vulnerable.

     Dishonesty  is  not an effective tool in  efforts  to
achieve   enjoyment,    fulfillment   and    satisfaction.
Dishonesty  is  not  an effective  tool  of  manipulation,
unless  it  is kept hidden.   Open dishonesty  is  not  an
effective  tool of manipulation,   for  people can  defend
themselves against open dishonesty.

     Covert  dishonest is not an effective tool in efforts
to achieve enjoyment,  fulfillment and  satisfaction---for
each  dishonest expression,  action or appearance must  be
hidden with additional dishonest expressions,  actions and
appearances---in   an   endless  exponential   growth   of
dishonesty  with growing anxiety;  and with fear that  the
exponential growth pattern will become apparent,  exposed,
revealed,   and  untenable.   Such an untenable  situation
generates anxiety, fear, tension, conflict and violence---
which  undermines  all possibilities of  joy,   enjoyment,
happiness,  fulfillment and satisfaction.  Thus dishonesty
is  not an effective tool in efforts to achieve enjoyment,
fulfillment and satisfaction.

     Honesty  is central within all contexts where  people
enjoy  fulfillment and satisfaction in cooperative efforts
to  meet  their own needs,  while helping others  to  meet
their own  needs.   In such contexts people's focus is not
upon  achievements     through     technical    efforts to
reach  unilaterally  set  goals,   requirements  and  pre-
requisites. The whole mind-set within such joyful contexts
is  in  great  contrast  to  the  mind-set  of   dishonest
collusive addicts and their codependent supporters who are
engaged  in  willful  conflict  perpetuation.    (See  the
previous essay.)
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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