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%PERVERTED ADDICT CODEPEND COLLUSIVE LOVE FAITH JOY+940507
  %DISHONEST APPEARANCE PROPHET TRUE HOPE SALVATION 940507

    We need to know how to recognize,  name,  describe and
talk openly and honestly about perverted forms of:   love,
faith, joy, honesty, prophecy, truth,  hope and salvation.
Participants  in  collusive  addictions  and   codependent
support  of  such addictions  play games  of  mutual  self
deception   within  which  many  positive  realities   are
perverted,   invested  in attractive vestments,   and then
presented  as  being  better than the true realities which
remain free of perversion.

    Perverted   love  is  NOT  gentle,   patient,    kind,
forgiving, humble,  abiding,  or honestly present in times
of  need. Perverted love is presumptuous,  arrogant, rude,
boastful, impatient, coercive, judgmental, condemning, and
dishonestly intrusive in times of need.

    True  faith trusts in the power of true love  to  heal
and  renew  people  who  are  imperfect,  and to heal  and
renew their relationships which are imperfect.   Perverted
faith is not honest about human limitations, ignorance, or
games of mutual self deception.   Perverted faith does not
focus  upon  personal  or communal integrity  wherein  the
family  of God is one  in  the  honest spiritual  presence
within each creature.

    True joy comes freely from the heart.   Perverted  joy
does  not come freely from the heart.   Perverted  joy has
more to do with coerced appearances which are  intended to
be in  conformity with coercive expectations---than it has
to  do  with  being  true  to  self  and  other  regarding
spiritual journeys and matters of the heart.

    True honesty has to do  with being safely true to self
and other about one's own experiences,  doubts,   desires,
fears, hopes, aspirations, disappointments, etc. Perverted
honesty  does not have to do with being true  to self  and
others.    Perverted honesty consists of being faithful to
the   pretensions  of  collusive  games  of  mutual   self
deception;   conforming to the coercive expectations of of
participants in such  collusive games.   Perverted honesty
is often  rewarded while prophetic revelations of its lack
of  integrity  are  punished  by people trying  to  be  in
control.

    True  prophets  speak  the  truth  with power in love.
Perverted  prophets   often   participate in    alienative
judgments,  condemnations and  excommunications;   wishing
upon the enemies of the prophet disintegrative punishments
in the manner of manipulative addicts.

    Real truths are incarnate in people who enjoy personal
and  communal  integrity by being true to  themselves  and
each other.   Perverted truths  are misleading  statements
designed to elicit respect on the part of conformists  who
are   not  interested  in  either  personal  or   communal
integrity.

    Real  hope  is grounded in being one together  in  the
presence of God's family of true creatures.    They accept
God's gift of true security---knowing it as the freedom to
be  safely  vulnerable  in the mysterious presence of  the
Holy Spirit---which is present  in creatures  who seek for
integrity  and  honesty  in being themselves,   whole  and
healthy ---within a community of such seekers.   Perverted
hope entails  dishonest  expectations   that  manipulative
technologies will bear sweet fruit.

    True  salvation is not an achievement which  qualifies
the achiever to be  accepted into open and honest dialogue
with people who have been assured that they  can be safely
vulnerable in intimate relationships.  True salvation   is
the  acceptance  of   such unconditional
acceptance  on the terms of those who offer the true  gift
of  such  security.   Perverted  salvation  is  the  false
appearance  that salvation can be  achieved  through  some
manipulative means  or  technology---to  gain  conditional
acceptance    and/or   avoid   threats    of    judgments,
condemnations, rejections  and  excommunication  from open
and honest dialogue.

    We need to know how to recognize,  name,  describe and
talk openly and honestly about perverted forms of:   love,
faith, joy, honesty, prophecy, truth, hope and salvation.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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