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        %TRUE LOVE PROMPT WILL VULNERABLE SAFE FREE 940415

    True love prompts us to be willing to be vulnerable to
each other; not to make others to be vulnerable to us.

    True love prompts us to give to each other the freedom
to  be safely vulnerable with us---within  secure contexts
wherein we are also safely vulnerable with them. True love
does not prompt us to steal  from each other true security
which  is  the freedom to be safely venerable  with  us---
within   secure  contexts  wherein  we  are  also   safely
vulnerable with them.

    True  love  prompts  us  to  honestly  listen to,   be
sensitive to, and be openly responsive to each other. True
love does not prompt us to preach at, talk at, lecture to,
admonish,  prescribe,   prohibit,   judge,  excommunicate,
disfellowship, alienate, and/or punish each other.

    True love seeks to lead us to acknowledge,  affirm and
celebrate  how  fully we are  already  essentially  inter-
connected,   and how we may more fully fulfill how we  are
already essentially inter-connected. Our ego, on the other
hand, seeks to be (make us  appear to be)  in control as a
superior separated being.

    True   love  leads  us  to  maximize  our   integrated
advantage  as  a communal whole,  through the  fulfillment
of   our essential inter-connectedness.   Our ego seeks to
maximize  its  own  (appearing  as  if  it  were our  own)
separated   advantage---at   the  expense,    of   others'
(appearing   as  if  they  were  our  enemy')    separated
advantage.

    True  love  leads  us  to  approach  each  other  with
integrative assumptions,  attitudes,  interests,  desires,
hopes   and   aspirations---regarding   each   other    as
essentially  interconnected  in  our  cosmic  unity  which
exists in our eternal now of being the cosmic unity.   Our
ego seeks to lead us to separate,  analyze and  manipulate
ourselves  and each other---as separated objects  free  of
any  essential inter-connections and avoiding the risks of
making any essential inter-connections.

    True love leads us to seek to develop open and  honest
relationships  of  mutual trust wherein we are all safe to
take the  risks  which  are  inherent  in  truly  intimate
relationships   of   mutual  dialogue,   cooperation   and
inclusive   interconnection.     Our ego leads us to  seek
to  achieve isolated security through attempts  to  be  in
control of  our  environment via actual and/or  threatened
violent  maneuvers of deceptive appearances;  and  through
physical,     psychological,     economic,     scientific,
technocratic, religious and spiritual manipulations.

    The   paradigms   of  people  who   are   compulsively
preoccupied    with:    isolated    objects,     objective
relationships, technologies, technocratic fixes,  personal
manipulations,   regulations,  achievements,   conformity,
rules,  laws, prohibitions,  prescriptions,  commandments,
threats,  judgments and punishments---are paradigms  which
undermine  personal  and  communal  integrity  by  leading
people   to   approach  each  other  with   dis-connective
assumptions  and  attitudes.   Any  technical  superiority
which their ways may appear to have---is undermined by the
spirit   which   motivates   and   guides   the   personal
incarnations of the paradigms.

    To  people  who  are involved in  collusive  games  of
mutual self deception the possibility that people might be
inter-connected  with each other  in essentially  intimate
ways---with information flowing back  and forth apart from
calculated  efforts  to  manipulate  each  other   through
selective  communications---is  a  terrifying possibility.
Through  their firm  convictions about the assumptions  of
their objective paradigm---they exclude the possibility of
discovering,   talking about  and becoming fully  informed
about   essential  human  inter-dependencies,    reflexive
relationships,  and inter-connections. Hypotheses relating
to such integrative realities are taboo.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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