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     %RESPECTED ADDICTIONS CONTROL DISCIPLINE RULES+940409
     %REGULATIONS LAWS PROHIBITIONS COMMANDS TABOOS 940409

    It is hard to deal wisely with the many diverse  forms
of  addictions  because some of the many forms are  highly
respected  and are not recognized as forms  of  addiction.
Many   respected   people  do not recognize  that   highly
respected forms of addiction are in significant ways  much
like the forms of  addiction which are not respected.   To
deal  wisely  with  all  forms of  addiction  we  need  to
recognize the ways in which they are alike,  and why it is
that some forms  of  addiction  are highly  respected---in
spite  of  how similar  they are to the forms of addiction
which are not respected.

    Alcoholics  on  skid row are victims of addiction  who
are not respected  by  the wider community.   So also drug
addicts  and  gang members who get  money through  illegal
business  ventures  are victims of addiction who  are  not
respected by the  wider  community---yet they have much in
common with many very influential religious,  business and
political  leaders.   They are preoccupied with issues  of
control  and are  not dedicated to promoting true personal
and  communal integrity,  both of which are  essential  to
true   security  known  as  the  freedom  to   be   safely
vulnerable. They are inclined  to  try  to  be  in control
through   fixations   upon  manipulative  procedures   and
technologies;  and through the playing  of collusive games
of   mutual   self   deception  with   their   codependent
supporters.

    The  knowledge of self and other which is often  found
within open and honest intimate relationships of integrity
can   provide  a  foundation  for  transcending  defensive
collusive games of mutual self deception.   Thus it  is no
surprise  that  many efforts to be in control are  focused
critically  upon  open  and  honest intimate relationships
with  their  sexual  possibilities---for  such  liberating
relationships engender much fear in  colluders who  defend
their entrapping webs of  dishonesty  through manipulative
efforts which rarely bear sweet integrative fruit.

    We need to learn how to recognize,  name, describe and
talk about the often respected forms of addiction as being
similar  (in specifically described ways)    to  the forms
of addiction which are not respected.   We need to  better
understand   how  control,   dishonesty,    manipulations,
confusion,  secrecy, exclusivity, alienations, dichotomies
and rejections are pervasive threads in the various  kinds
of  addiction  which  trap  respected  and   non-respected
addicts and their codependent supporters. Only then can we
deal wisely with their  dis-ease.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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