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    %TRUE SELF OTHER BASIS DIFFERENT INTEGRITY TEMP+940118
      %DILEMMA DIFFERENCE CONFORM COLLUDE DECEPTION 940118

     As  we seek the fruits of true integrity we are often
tempted  to compromise our own integrity or the  integrity
of   our  community/others  in  the way we  seek.       If
we compromise our being true to self and others, we do not
find or enjoy the fruits of true integrity.

     Central  to our dilemma as we seek the fruits of true
integrity  is  the  question  of  how  to  deal  with  our
differences.   Shall we smooth out our differences through
conformal procedures, or shall we be true to ourselves and
each other about our differences?    Our efforts to smooth
out our  differences through conformal procedures  usually
lead  us into collusive games of mutual self     deception
within     mutually     supportive   addictive/codependent
relationships.    If we do not  find or create honest ways
to   deal   with   our  differences   we  are   bound   to
disintegrate.

     Our  differences  often  generate   conflicts  within
conformal   communities.   In contrast,  our   differences
generate   interesting    dialogue   within    integrative
communities  and peoples.   The difference between the two
processes  is the difference    between     a    community
in   which   the fruits of integrity are feared ---  and a
community in which the fruits of integrity are enjoyed.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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