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  %ULTIMATE EVIL SIN DISINTEGRATE ALIENATE VIOLENCE+940110
   %EXTREME REJECTION FAILURE HOPELESSNESS COERCION+940110
     %ACCEPT REJECT TRUE SELF OTHER WHOLE INTEGRITY 940110

     We  and  those  closest  and dearest to  us  are  the
victims   of   the   ultimate   forms   of   evil,    sin,
disintegration, alienation and violence if we so much fear
each  other's  rejection  that  we  fail  to  be  true  to
ourselves about our own most primitive experiences.

     When we so regularly yield to collusive coercion that
we cannot  test conventional/conformal  wisdom in terms of
our own most primitive experiences---then there is NO EXIT
from  the  collusive  prisons  we  have constructed around
ourselves, and within which we have trapped ourselves.

     When  we  always  believe/accept  others'  explicitly
and/or implicitly coercive instructions regarding which of
our own most primitive experiences  we   may safely trust;
and which we must reject  as unacceptable---then there  is
no  ground  upon which we may safely accept each other  as
whole persons who are not always true to self and others.

     To survive with personal and communal integrity it is
essential  that we give to each other,  accept  from  each
other, and  have for ourselves----a safe ground upon which
to accept each other as whole persons who are trying to be
true to self and others in spite of conventional/conformal
wisdom which dysfunctional people try to impose upon us---
to protect  their  collusive addictions and their patterns
of codependent support thereof.

     If  there  is  no  safe  ground  upon  which  we  may
cooperate in  testing our conventional/conformal wisdom in
terms of our most primitive personal experiences,  then it
is inevitable that we will build around ourselves and each
other  collusive  prisons from which we will  be  able  to
escape only through death.

     If we can escape from our cherished collusive prisons
only  through death---then we are the living dead who  are
in need of the threatening miracle of true salvation which
threatens   all  of  our  carefully  woven   fabrics   of:
dishonesty, deception, secrecy, collusions, addictions and
codependent   support   thereof.     Such   a   miraculous
resurrection is intolerable and greatly to be feared.

     If our lives are dominated by fears of other people's
rejections of us as persons because of our non-conformity;
then  we  are  all unable  to  deal  creatively  with  the
dilemmas which all of us face us each day  in meeting each
other  on  the playing fields of  all  the dishonest GAMES
PEOPLE  PLAY---because we  systematically believe that  WE
ARE NOT O.K.  and OTHERS ARE NOT O.K.  for reasons of non-
conformity.

     If conformity  is  the  only  grounds  for   personal
acceptance,     then non-conformity is always a ground for
personal rejection,  and  we  are  eternally  in  fear  of
personal rejection  on the grounds of non-conformity---and
desperately  try  to  find  ways to conform  to  win  each
other's acceptance.   That eternal fear is  hell---wherein
we eternally fear the truth.

     In heaven people eternally accept each other as whole
persons  who  are free to be true to themselves  and  each
other  in  the light of their own most primitive  personal
experiences---because they give to themselves and to  each
other the gift of true security which is the freedom to be
safely    vulnerable   in   open   and   honest   intimate
relationships.   In heaven the fear of rejection  for non-
conformity  is eliminated through the giving and accepting
of the gift of true security.

     In heaven people learn through their mistakes because
there  they  are free to  be true to themselves  and  each
other in open and honest dialogue about their own and each
other's most primitive  personal experiences---free of any
coercive requirements  that primitive personal experiences
first  be  filtered  through  the  collusive  filters   of
conventional/conformal  wisdom  before they  are  accepted
into consciousness and dialogue.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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