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  %WISE LEARN AVOID REPEAT MISTAKE GOAL IDEAL VALUE 931203

     To  be wise and learn from our own past  mistakes  we
must   reflect   upon  our  own  behavior  and  upon   the
consequences of our own behavior.   This is impossible  if
we are compulsively objective.

     To have clear ideals,  values and goals we must think
carefully  about ourselves and  be clear about how we feel
about our various possible ideals, values and goals.  This
is   impossible  if  we  are  compulsively  trying  to  be
objective all the time.

     To be successful in fulfilling our ideals, values and
goals we must monitor our behavior, watch our progress and
change  ourselves  through  reflection  upon  our   actual
situation  and  being,   in  comparison  to  our  intended
situation  and  being.    This  is impossible  if  we  are
compulsively trying to be objective all the time.

     To function as coherent whole beings we  must  regard
ourselves  as coherent whole beings, and  accept ourselves
and  each  other  into personal  relationships which   are
coherent, cooperative,  reflexive and integrative. This is
impossible if  we are compulsively trying to be  objective
and are fragmentively analytic.

     To  be persons  of integrity we must reflexively work
to maintain balance  which  is inclusive of all  essential
aspects  of healthy living.   This is impossible if we are
fanatics dedicated to mutually  exclusive  and conflicting
dichotomous demands, goals, ideals and values.

     To  be  whole and healthy people we must  maintain  a
balanced and healthy diet of food,  exercise,  activities,
ideals,  values,  goals and interactions with other people
and objects---and reflect there-upon.   This is impossible
if  we  are  compulsively  fixated  upon  identifying  and
excelling in one highly specialized way of living  as  the
exclusive key to salvation.

     To  engage in healthy inter-personal relationships we
must  openly  and honestly deal with  the  nature  of  our
inter-personal   relationships   which   are   essentially
reflexive  in  character.   This is impossible if  we  are
compulsively  trying  to avoid reflexive relationships  in
order to be perfectly objective at all times.

     If those people nearest and dearest to us are  always
trying  to be  perfect and cannot deal openly and honestly
with their own and other people's emotions in the face  of
imperfections---then we are likely to be like them; and be
unable to  engage  in healthy inter-personal relationships
which are fulfilling and meaningful.

     These  reflections need to be kept in mind as we seek
the  way  to  fulfilling  and  meaningful  lives  in   our
reflexive  personal relationships with each other as whole
persons  of  integrity within  communities  of  integrity.
These reflexive considerations are especially important to
young   people   thinking  of  entering   the   scientific
professions  which  are  dominated  by  people   who   are
compulsively  interested  in being  objective,   analytic,
quantitative, computational, and perfectly non-reflexive.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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