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 %AFFECT REJECTION WITHDRAW AFFIRMATION DENIAL DENY+930919
 %TOUCH INTIMACY EMOTION FEELING NEGLECT ABUSE EVIL 930919

     We as  humans  need  affection,   touching,  physical
intimacy.   In  the absence of the meeting  of  such needs
infants get sick and die.   In the absence of the  meeting
of   such  needs  people  become   dis-eased,   irritable,
frustrated, resentful, angry and violent.

     Rejection,   judgements,    denials,   condemnations,
excommunications  and  their  like  are  made  often  real
through  the  lack of affection and  gentle  touching  and
their
     replacement with neglect and/or violence.
   Such   neglect   on  the  part  of  parents  in   their
relationships with their children constitute passive abuse
if violence is not present,  and active abuse if  violence
is present.

     Affective  rejection   is   violent   when  affective
acceptance  would  be  the  healthy,  normal  and  natural
expectation; as in relationships between parents and their
children, and between couples  in  a marriage or a similar
covenanted relationship between competent  adults.   This,
however,  is  not  grounds for turning the  expectation of
affective acceptance  into a manipulative tool by which to
manipulate others in a dysfunctional relationship.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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