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        %GIVE SELF SECURITY FREEDOM SAFE VULNERABLE 930918

     It is not only essential that we give others the gift
of  security known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable.
It is also essential that we give ourselves the same gift.
If  we  do  not give ourselves the  freedom  to  be safely
vulnerable we  cannot love others by giving them the  same
gift; for we can love others only as much and in the kinds
of ways in which we love ourselves.

     We may  not feel it is safe for us to give  ourselves
the  gift  of  security known as the freedom to  be safely
vulnerable.    Others may have communicated to us  tacitly
the conviction that we must earn such security; that until
we have paid for such security with good deeds we must not
enjoy such security.   We need to recognize and talk about
how such  a  conviction  leads to  personal  and  communal
alienation  and disintegration.   It is a  conviction that
leads to evil personal relationships.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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