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 %TRUE LOVE GOD SELF OTHERS WORK ENABLE OPEN HONEST+930610
%DIALOGUE BALANCE GIFT SECURITY ADDICT CODEPEND JOY 930610

     True love  works  to  enable  and encourage  open and
honest dialogue in ways which are:

     1.  Gentle                  2.  Not violent
     3.  Considerate             4.  Not coercive
     5.  Charitable              6.  Not manipulative
     7.  Generous                8.  Not demanding
     9.  Forgiving              10.  Not judgmental
    11.  Humble                 12.  Not pretentious
    13.  Integrative            14.  Not fragmentive
    15.  Liberating             16.  Not controlling
    17.  Encouraging            18.  Not discouraging
    19.  Supportive             20.  Not punitive
    21.  Relaxing               22.  Not diseasing
    23.  Empathic               24.  Not harsh
    25.  Affective              26.  Not technocratic
    27.  Restful                28.  Not contentious
    29.  Mutual                 30.  Not codependent
    31.  Honest                 32.  Not collusive
    33.  Open                   34.  Not secretive
    35.  Balanced               36.  Not unilateral
    37.  Coherent               38.  Not dichotomous
    39.  Inclusive              40.  Not exclusive


     When  people  affirm  and work for  goals,  purposes,
ideals,   values  and plans  unilaterally---they  tend  to
pervert  their conception of what true love is,   so  that
they see love as  consistent  with their unilateral goals,
purposes, ideals,  values and plans; but not as consistent
with  the above descriptions.   That perversion  leads  to
many  tragic consequences which they cannot  see with  any
clarity or understanding.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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