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%HEAL ALIEN ESTRANGE SELF REJECT OTHER RELATION JOY+930609
%RECONCILE FORGIVE AMENDS HONESTY OPEN DIALOGUE SIN+930609
  %HEALTH DISEASE DOCTOR MEDICAL PARADIGM ADDICTION 930609

     Human  healing is not possible  without  healing  the
alienation within self and the alienation between self and
others.  Much of human dis-ease is rooted in being ill-at-
ease   because   of  unresolved  conflicts  within   self,
unresolved   conflicts  between  self  and  others,    and
unresolved conflicts among ideals and values.

     Just  as a community which is engaged in a civil  war
cannot heal, so also a person who is internally engaged in
a  civil war among internalized ideals and  values  cannot
heal.

     Just  as  a community dominated by rival factions  of
members  who do not honestly communicate with  each  other
and  so do understand each other (and vice versa)   cannot
heal  and  be  well,   so also  a person  whose  being  is
fragmented  into  playing  roles  which  do  not  honestly
communicate  with each  other  and so do not  inform  each
other is a person cannot heal and be well.

     Healing   and  health  remain  out  of  reach   until
unresolved conflicts  are  openly  and honestly identified
and  dealt  with---both  within  communities  and   within
individual members of communities.   The two processes are
mirror  images of each other;  so it is  hard to  get  one
image to change without getting the mirror image to change
as well.

     In  the objective world of our every-day  experiences
when the reality  changes  the  mirror image in  a  mirror
changes automatically.  In the world of intra-personal and
inter-personal  relationships regarded as mirror images of
each other the two images do not change automatically when
either one of them changes.  The process which changes one
of the images does not automatically lead to the change in
the  other.   There must be two coordinated process  which
lead  to coordinated which changes in the  images  of  the
community within the members, and which change the  images
of  the  members within the  community.   Such coordinated
processes  are  essentially impossible within a  community
which is dominated by addictive, codependent and collusive
games of mutual self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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