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 %ADDICT ABUSE MANIPULATE DOCTRINE TRUTH RELATE LAW+930509
  %PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY REFLECTION REFLEXIVE 930509

     Our  behaviors are motivated and lead by a variety of
considerations  and  we will do well to  maintain  clarity
about what their characters are.

     Each  healthy person  has inherent  needs,   desires,
wants,  wishes which are  inherent  in the unique  person;
healthy,  un-calculated,  and non-compulsive.  There is no
significant sense  in  which  considerations of cause  and
effect are calculated. Let us call them PRIMARY MOTIVES.

     Primary   motivations   lead   naturally  to   DIRECT
SECONDARY MOTIVATIONS.  We may want to do some  action  in
order to fulfill  one  of our primary motivations.  Direct
secondary  motivations entail some considerations of cause
and  effect.   Direct secondary motivations usually play a
more  significant role in the lives of highly  intelligent
and/or   educated  people  than  in  the  lives  of   less
intelligent and/or educated people.

     We   are  motivated  by  our  ideals,   values,   and
principles;   by  what  we believe to  be  good,   proper,
respectable, and/or integrative in nature. Ideals, values,
principles,   beliefs,  doctrines,  and their like are not
inherently  motives;  but they do lead to motivations.  We
may reasonably refer to them as IDEOLOGICAL MOTIVATIONS.

     We  are  motivated  by considerations  of  how  other
people  will respond to us as persons,  to what we do,  to
what we do not do,  to our appearances.  Such  motivations
are  not  inherent  in  our being our  natural  selves  or
fulfilling  our  primary  motivations  or  ideals.    Such
motivations are reflections of our considerations of other
people's  behaviors.   We may reasonably refer to them  as
REFLECTIVE MOTIVATIONS;  they are not objective in nature,
they  do  not exist in nature independent of  us  and  our
relationships.

     Reflective motivations  often lead us into  living in
houses  of  mirrors  where we cannot tell  the  difference
between  reflective  motivations  and our other  kinds  of
motivations.  Through reflective motivations we often  try
to appear to being others as other than we really are, and
in  the  process  we  confuse  ourselves  because  we  are
constantly  watching  in  the mirrors  of  other  people's
confused  responses to our deceptive appearances.   To the
extent that we confuse others about who we are, and to the
extent that we are fixated upon what we see in the mirrors
of other people's confused responses to who  they think we
are;  to that extent we become detached from:  our healthy
primary  motivations, our  secondary motivations,  and our
ideological motivations.  We become incoherent reflections
and echoes of each other and do not know how to be true to
ourselves or to each other.

     We  cannot be people and communities of integrity  so
long  as  we are constantly confusing ourselves  and  each
other  about the natures and sources of  our  motivations.
Collusive  games of mutual self deception often have to do
with  trying to appear to each other to  have  motivations
which are different from our real motivations.   Confusion
can  pertain  to  the immediate desire to  deceive  others
about  the immediate motivations;  first-order  deception.
Confusion can also pertain to unintentional or intentional
desires  to deceive others about the kinds of  motivations
which drive and lead us; second-order deceptions which are
part   of  collusions.   Both  kinds  of   confusion   are
dangerously  disintegrative  of persons  and  communities.
Such confusions are particularly disintegrative  to people
and communities motivated  by considerations of compulsive
concerns  about how others will respond to them  and their
behaviors.

     We are compulsively concerned about how other  people
will  respond  to us if we have had experiences  in  which
people threatened to,  or or did:  reject,  excommunicate,
banish,  neglect,   ignore,  or otherwise cut us off  from
dialogue because they were not pleased by us and/or by our
behavior.  People who have been rejected,  excommunicated,
banished,   neglected,  ignored or otherwise cut off  from
dialogue are people who are prone to personal and communal
disintegration    through    collusive    confusions    of
motivations.   Such people are motivated to play collusive
games  of  mutual self deception as they try to appear  to
each other to be acceptable in terms of criteria which are
defined  only  in terms of the collusive games  of  mutual
self   deception.    They   are  motivated  by   COLLUSIVE
MOTIVATIONS  which originate in collusive games of  mutual
self  deception driven by paralyzing fears  of  rejection,
excommunication,    banishment,   neglect  and  ignorance.
Showing  respect  for  such  games  leads  to  exponential
personal  and  communal disintegration where the  rate  of
disintegration is proportional to past disintegrations.

     COLLUSIVE  MOTIVATIONS are inherently  disintegrative
and merit no respect or support.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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