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   %ADDICTIVE COERCION CONTROL SHAME BLAME DUTY OWN 930509

     We  need  to  beware of people who  encourage  us  to
accept and own unlimited responsibilities which we  cannot
fulfill  because we are limited mortal creatures.  We need
to be cautious of the motives of such people who encourage
us  to  accept and own unlimited responsibilities.  If  we
accept and own unlimited responsibilities we are set up to
be blamed, shamed,  and guilted in ways which will make us
vulnerable  for  manipulation  and  control  by   addicts,
codependent supporters and colluders.
     It  is  dishonest and  unhealthy  to accept  and  own
unlimited  responsibilities.  We  should not presume to be
able to do what we cannot do.  We should not implicitly or
explicitly  promise  to  do  more than we  can  do.   Such
promises do not promote personal or communal integrity and
we  should  not  pretend that they  can  or  might.   Such
dishonest   promises   promote   personal   and   communal
disintegration.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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