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     %STANDARD JUDGE GUILTY SUPPORT INTIMATE RELATE 930330

     The appropriate standards for judgement are different
in a court of law appointed the task of deciding on  guilt
or innocence on the one hand, and in personal decisions as
to  whether   to  respect  and/or  support   an   intimate
relationship.

     In  a  court of law appointed the task of deciding on
guilt   or  innocence  the  accusers  must  prove   beyond
reasonable doubt that some specific  legitimately  enacted
law has been violated  by the accused.   The judges are to
begin  with strong doubt about guilt,  and shift to belief
in guilt only upon strong evidence thereof---in regards to
some  specific  law clearly  articulated.   Circumstantial
evidence is not to be taken  seriously  in  the absence of
more convincing evidence.

     In personal decisions as to whether to respect and/or
support an intimate  relationship  doubt is an appropriate
beginning,  and  circumstantial  evidence  is  appropriate
grounds  for  shifting  to respect and support even in the
absence of more convincing evidence.

     In personal decisions  as to whether  to  respect  an
intimate  relationships attention is  appropriately  given
to:

     1.  An   evident   commitment  to  honesty   in   the
relationship.

     2.  A  pattern of gentleness,  charity,  forgiveness,
tenderness, respect, balance.

     3.  Efforts to  promote  both personal  and  communal
integrity in balanced ways.

     4.  A  prudent  willingness to be generous in helping
others take good care of themselves.

     5.  A tendency towards inclusive relationships rather
than towards exclusive relationships.

     6.  Evidence  of  seeking to promote open  and honest
dialogue,    talk,     conversations,     listening---with
significantly differing peoples.

     7.  Work  towards honest conflict resolution in which
all participants win advantages in conflict resolution.

     8.  Tolerance and respect for creative differences.

     9.  Work to  transcend  collusions,   addictions  and
codependent relationships.

     10.  Efforts   to  understand  and   sympathize  with
enemies.

     In the presence of such circumstantial evidence it is
reasonable  and proper to assume that private aspects of a
relationships are integrative, rather than disintegrative;
gentle rather than violent.

     In no  instance  should  the  mere  suggestion that a
relationships is improper be grounds for judging  it to be
improper until proven otherwise.   When it comes to making
judgements and moving towards punishment,  innocence is to
be assumed  until  guilt  is  proven  with  far  more than
circumstantial evidence.  The assumption of innocence does
not, however,  require personal respect for and/or support
of a relationship about which little is known.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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