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   There are three related parts to this web page:

1. About contributors to the growth of www.essayz.com

Students who contributed much to the late evolution of the
presentations of essays included:  an  art major,  a music
major, two math and physics majors, a business-administra-
tion  major,  a noted actress/magician/singer,  a nursing-
degree student, a sociology major  and  an English  major;
including  students from, directly  or  indirectly: India,
South-East Asia  and China;  and  through  correspondance,
an  influential engineer  within China; following a  visit
by the writer to China in 1983.

It was the student from India who suggested that  she help
the writer  in the  arduous task  of organizing  the  many  
texts on magnetic media.   She started the pattern of many
students  helping  complete  that task.  Later  a freshman
student  initiated  the  task of beginning the creation of
the web site in its earliest form.  She  worked for  a few
years on the overall project.

2. See a7309011 for a FIRST NOTE about the long evolution.


3. The following was articulated mutually by three persons 
early in becoming involved in a close relationship related 
to the long-evolution toward this web-site of many essays; 
in a mutual effort to maintain healthy long-term-relation-
ships therein.  There  was  no  felt need for any  signing
of the document that follows just below.   Many people may
find hints  in what follows  regarding how to approach the
formation of healthy personal relationships --- especially
when other  domineering-people  are making it difficult to
form healthy personal relationships.

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                   %COVENANT AGREEMENT RELATIONSHIP 930401 

     We who enter into this covenant relationship agree:
     
     1.  To  meet  humbly in the eternal  presence  of the 
power which transcends us all. 
     
     2.  To  respect each other's imperfect  personal  and 
communal integrities. 

     3.  To seek honesty and integrity through our growing 
imperfect relationships.
     
     4.  To  cooperatively  seek  win-win  resolutions  of 
conflicts among ideals and values.
     
     5.  To  respect each other's right to privacy and  to 
be their own unique person.
     
     6.  That  truly  integrative human relationships  are 
not achieved through control.
     
     7.  That none of us have the duty,  right, or need to 
be in control of other persons.
     
     8.  That  it is not our duty,  right or privilege  to 
fix or rescue dishonest people.
     
     9.  That   evil  grows  through  excommunication  and 
within our alienative relationships.
     
    10.  That salvation is dynamic and cannot be  achieved 
through any kind of conformity. 
     
    11.  That balanced personal and communal integrity are 
essential to true salvation.
     
    12.  That conditional personal acceptance,  affection, 
and affirmations are unhealthy. 
     
    13.  That  personal  manipulations,   coercion,    and 
violence are disintegrative.
     
    14.  That powerful addicts'  and codependents' typical 
behaviors do not merit respect.
     
    15.  That   exclusivity  often  leads  to  rejections, 
alienation and evil relationships.
     
    16.  That   in   integrative   relationships   healthy 
boundaries reflect human limitations.
     
    17.  That  honestly-taking-care-of-self  comes  before 
healthy-caring-for-others.
     
    18.  That  we  cannot take-care-of-others  any  better 
than we take-care-of-ourselves.
     
    19.  To  work  to transcend coercive and  manipulative 
personal expectations.
     
    20.  To  work cooperatively towards balanced  communal 
and personal relationships.
     
    21.  To  work  to  transcend  dichotomous   attitudes, 
ideals, values and relationships. 
     
    22.  To  honestly acknowledge our own and each other's 
finitude and limitations.
     
    23.  To  give/accept true security as the gift of  the 
freedom to be safely vulnerable.
     
    24.  To  be  as true as we can to ourselves  and  each 
other in charity and humility.
     
    25.  To  honestly  share  our  experiences,  feelings, 
needs, insights, ideals and values. 
     
    26.  To  work  to learn as much as possible  from  our 
errors, failures and tragedies.
     
    27.  To elicit respect for this covenant  relationship 
to the best of our abilities.
     
    28.  That  other  people's  respect  for  a   covenant 
relationship expands possibilities. 
     
    29.  That  adversarial procedures are contrary to  the 
above agreement.
     
    30.  That  it  is  evil for  other  considerations  to 
undermine balanced consideration of these.    

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     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.
  
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in 
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy) 
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