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%HEALTH HUMAN RELATE GRACE REFLEXIVE MUTUAL CONDEMN+930305
   %TABOO VULNERABILITY SECURITY HONESTY TRUTH LOVE 930305

     For addicts true vulnerability is taboo because truly
vulnerable people are more likely to acknowledge dangerous
truths than are falsely invulnerable  people.  Thus  truly
vulnerable people  are  likely  to violate collusive rules
against  any  honesty which might  expose  the  dishonesty
which is essential to the survival of collusions and their
addictive/codependent supporters.

     For   addicts  manipulative  defensive  posturing  is
essential  to the avoidance of risks  to  the  collusions,
especially risks which are entailed in true vulnerability.
Such defensive posturing prevents both true  vulnerability
and the true security which is often associated  with true
vulnerability.   The  defensive posturing does not achieve
true security;  for that is not the  purpose  of defensive
posturing.    The  purpose  of defensive  posturing is the
elimination  of true  security wherein  people would  feel
save to be vulnerable in being honest.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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