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     For  a  community and its members to be healthy there
are  many physical needs which must be met.  These include
healthy: water, air,  food,  housing, clothing, education,
sanitation, neighborhoods, religions and politics.

     In addition to the above essentials;  for a community
and  its members to be healthy,  there are additional non-
physical needs which must be met.  These needs have to  do
with  what are regarded as the aspects of true  salvation.
Is true salvation associated intimately with any kind  of:
conformity,  law,  achievement,  requirement, prohibition,
competition, winning,  discipline,  expectation,  control,
taboo,   management,   manipulation,  technology,  system,
planning,   design,  intention,  science,   coercion,   or
violence?

     Experience  suggests that salvation is not intimately
associated with the above kinds of realities;  but  rather
with  people  working  to generate and give to each  other
free  gifts  of  security,  so that all  members  of their
communities  live  their  lives in secure contexts  within
their personal relationships,  families,  homes,  schools,
work-places,  communities, nations, and planet.  Only when
our  needs  for true security are met are we truly free to
be open and honest with each other in  creative  dialogue,
conversations, intimate relations, cooperative efforts and
long-lasting conflict resolution.

     When our  childhood needs  for true security are  not
met,  we become the  victims  of perverse bonding with the
sick people in our childhood. By instinct we bond with our
primary  care givers and their attributes;  no matter  how
sick they may be.  Such bonding it not rational,  logical,
reasonable,  scientific or in our long-term best interest.
Now as  adults we live lives of quiet desperation as adult
children---in  our  own new  but  similarly  dysfunctional
families   which  perpetuate  the  tragedies  of  our  own
childhoods. Most of the repetitive mistakes in such tragic
lives  are  motivated  and  mis-lead  by  good intentions,
respected ideals and honored values.

     We  can break such tragic cycles of good  intentions,
respected ideals and honored values only  by  transcending
our  conceptions of the  nature  of true  salvation.   Our
ideals, values, goals, and religious beliefs all too often
lead us into tragic attempts  to  save ourselves  and each
other,     through   manipulative    and    disintegrative
technologies   which involve us in collusions,  addictions
and codependent patterns of thought while we engage in the
fabrication  around us of our invisible prisons---which we
do not permit ourselves or others to see.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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