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     The impressionist   artists   developed   a  style of
painting   which     leaves    the   viewer    of    their
paintings      with   impressions     conveyed     through
patterns    of    visible individual dots of color.    The
individual  dots  of  color taken  one  at a time   convey
no  overall  impression,    no particular  message.    The
message  is  to   be  found  in   the  pattern  of  inter-
relationships  among all the colored dots.  So also it  is
with  pictures  in newspapers, on television screens,  and
photographs.    Looked  at  closely enough   each  picture
becomes a pattern of  dots.  It  is the patterns of inter-
relationships  among  the  dots which  convey  the  image,
picture, impression; and so the message.

     In  human  relationships  and communities  there  are
many images,   pictures,  impressions and messages---which
are  conveyed   by   the overall patterns  of   individual
events,   tones of voice,   postures,  facial expressions,
manners of movement,   actions omitted,  things not  said,
expectations,    fears,      anticipations,     attitudes,
emotions,    etc.    The elements   which  make   up   the
whole  are  not   clearly identified  objective  realities
existing  apart  from  the viewers  of  them.    The  more
closely   anybody  looks   at the elements   as   separate
objective  realities;   the   less objective and real they
are  in  the  overall   pattern   of human   relationships
and   communities.    Their  reality  is embedded  in  the
pattern   of  which  they  are   a   part   in  the  human
relationships and communities.

     Children  growing  up  in any family become aware  of
the  overall  patterns of relationships  and  communities;
more  so than of the objective individual events,    tones
of  voice,   postures,  facial  expressions,   manners  of
movement,    actions  omitted,      things    not    said,
expectations,       fears,   anticipations,     attitudes,
emotions,  etc.   It is the human meanings of the patterns
which are important to children.  Does the child's context
offer security,   hope,    support,  affection,   freedom,
joy,  pleasure,  etc?  No thoroughly objective analysis of
the  individual elements of the human relationships    and
community    will   yield   meaningful responses  to  such
questions.    The overall patterns need to be responded to
in  wholistic  ways in order for there  to  be  meaningful
responses  to such questions;  and in order for there   to
be   healing   of  unhealthy   relationships, communities,
and disintegrative patterns within them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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