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      %EMOTIONAL PATTERN LIFE STYLE FRIEND RESPONSE 920809

     The  general emotional tone and pattern of our lives,
and  the  particular  emotions  which  we  associate  with
particular  activities  and situations---both depend  upon
the patterns of  responses  of  our families,  friends and
associates;  both to and within particular activities  and
situations.

     If  we do not talk about the general  emotional  tone
and  pattern  of  our lives,  or do  not  talk  about  the
particular  emotions  which we associate  with  particular
activities  and  situations---then we may be unaware  that
other people  live with different  general emotional tones
and patters in their lives than do we.

     We  may in isolation  think and feel that our general
emotional tone and/or particular emotions  are  inevitably
associated   with  life  in  general,   and/or  with   the
particular activities and situations---in the same way for
everybody; when in fact they are not.

     In   our   emotional  ignorance  we  are   bound   to
misunderstand  each other's responses  which are rooted in
different emotional tones, patterns, and responses.

     In a compulsively objective community where reflexive
considerations  are repressed,  the  level of ignorance is
likely to mirror the absence of emotional open and  honest
discussion of emotional experiences.

     The following aspects  of our lives depend profoundly
upon the general emotional tone and pattern  of our lives,
and  upon the particular emotions  which we associate with
particular activities and situations:

     (1)  How  we  regard  each  other;   with  affection,
suspicion,     trust,    fear,    sympathy,    resentment,
appreciation, anger---or in other ways.

     (2)  How well we understand each other.

     (3)  How well we cooperate with each other.

     (4)  How successfully we resolve our conflicts.

     (5)  How we perpetuate our traditional conflicts.

     (6)  How we use and abuse each other.

     (7)  What we learn, when, and where.

     (8)  How we learn, and how we forget.

     (9)  Our general view of the nature of the universe.

     (10)  Our views of human relationships.

     (11)  How we respond to new situations and change.

     (12)  How we respond to risks and threats.

     (13)  Our level of creativity or lethargy.

     Considering  all that depends upon how well we  know,
understand, and talk about the general emotional  tone and
pattern of our lives; and the particular emotions which we
associate with particular activities and situations: it is
tragic that  little open and honest  attention  is focused
upon  these  dimensions of our lives,  and upon  how  they
connect to all aspects of our lives. But then,  of course,
we  could  not  keep  and  maintain  our  collusions   and
addictions---if we  did focus attention upon our emotional
lives.   We  must  keep and maintain  our  collusions  and
addictions! No wonder we do not wonder about our inability
to cope well and  with  integrity  with  our  dilemmas and
technical problems.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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