This is http://www.essayz.com/a9206191.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONFLICT DUTY NEED DOUBLE BIND TRANSCEND COLLUSION 920619 We may internalize as the focus of ULTIMATE-CONCERNS some duties which conflict with each other, or which conflict with our ULTIMATE-NEEDS which have to do with BEING-FREE-TO-ENJOY both PERSONAL-AND-COMMUNAL-INTEGRITY. Some of our needs are NEEDS-WHICH-ARE-ESSENTIAL to our BEING-FREE-TO-ENJOY both PERSONAL-AND-COMMUNAL- INTEGRITY. Such needs are our ULTIMATE-NEEDS. If we are ultimately concerned with fulfilling CONFLICTING DUTIES, or with fulfilling duties which are ULTIMATELY-IN-CONFLICT with fulfilling our NEEDS-WHICH- ARE-ESSENTIAL to our being FREE-TO-ENJOY both PERSONAL- AND-COMMUNAL-INTEGRITY------then we are in an ULTIMATE- DOUBLE-BIND. We cannot be PEOPLE-OF-INTEGRITY or COMMUNITIES-OF- INTEGRITY so long as we are INTERNALLY-IN-CONFLICT through the presence in us of ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS. To transcend our ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS we need to recognize the possibility that they might exist, and so be FREE-TO-EXAMINE what we experience as our ULTIMATE- CONCERNS, to see if they are in fact in conflict with each other and/or with our ULTIMATE-NEEDS. Such an examination is not a TECHNICAL-MATTER, for it will always involve CALLING-INTO-QUESTION one or more of our ULTIMATE-CONCERNS; i.e., challenging the ULTIMATE- CONCERNS' CLAIM-OF-ULTIMACY. Such a challenge will most likely be a challenge to the internal structure of one of our collusions, addictions or patterns of codependence; so it is most likely to be met with GREAT-INTERNAL- RESISTANCE. Collusions, addictions and codependencies have ULTIMATE-CONCERNS to SURVIVE-THROUGH-DECEPTION; no matter what the cost in PERSONAL-AND-COMMUNAL-INTEGRITY. Thus ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS undermine PERSONAL-AND-COMMUNAL- INTEGRITY. Participants in collusions, addictions and codependencies find that the generation of ULTIMATE- DOUBLE-BINDS in other people is a convenient technique for making other people and communities VULNERABLE-TO-EXTERNAL CONTROL; e.g., control by the participants in the collusions, addictions and codependencies. If a person is debilitated by the presence of ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS within themselves, or if a community is debilitated by the presence of ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS within/among the members of the community------then that debilitation creates ultimate vulnerability to external threats, manipulations and coercions. Each manipulative technology is, however, of such a character that it backfires; it generates within the persons/communities which employ the technology, the same kinds of ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS which the technology generates in the intended victims. The backfire occurs because the DECEITFUL-TECHNOLOGY is an ESSENTIALLY- DECEITFUL-TECHNOLOGY; dishonesty and deceit are essential to the technology. People who employ an ESSENTIALLY-DECEITFUL-TECHNOLOGY become the employees of the ESSENTIALLY-DECEITFUL- TECHNOLOGY; and so become the victims of the deceit and dishonesty which are ESSENTIAL-TO-THE-TECHNOLOGY. The ESSENTIALLY-DECEITFUL-TECHNOLOGY which they chose to serve them as a means, becomes their master; and they become the SERVANTS-OF-THEIR-TECHNOLOGY. The distinction between MEANS-AND-ENDS, SERVANT-AND-MASTER; become fused and confused; in the fusions and confusions which are characteristic of dishonest participants in collusions, addictions and codependencies. The boundaries between different realities become fused and confused. To transcend these fusions, confusions, dishonesties, deceits, and ESSENTIALLY-DECEITFUL-TECHNOLOGIES-----we need to learn how to HONESTLY-RECOGNIZE, HONESTLY-DESCRIBE and HONESTLY-DEAL with ULTIMATE-DOUBLE-BINDS. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================