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 %OPEN HONEST SEX INTIMACY RELATION BLOCK COLLUSION 920617

     We  cannot easily be open and honest with each  other
in intimate relationships if we cannot be open and  honest
with   each   other   about   our   sexuality.    Intimate
relationships   create   the   possibilities   of   sexual
relationships.   If we cannot be open and honest about our
sexuality  in  our  intimate  relationships,   we   cannot
cooperate with each other with regards to our  expressions
of   our  sexuality,   and  we  cannot  learn   from   our
embarrassments when we falter in developing our levels and
styles of intimacy.

     It  is  important for us to learn how to be open  and
honest with each other about our sexuality, because in the
absence  of such knowledge/ability/skill we will find that
we will hesitate to be open and honest about other matters
which   might  lead  toward  the  possibility  of  sexual
involvement.  Such hesitation increases the possibility of
slipping into  collusive games of mutual  self  deception,
within  which openness and honesty about sexuality will be
regarded as a threat to  the "integrity"  of the fabric of
dishonest threads within our collusions.

     Open  and  honest  sex  education  with  integrity is
essential  to personal and communal integrity;  for in its
absence   people  find  it  difficult  to  form   intimate
relationships  with many other people.  If children do not
learn  about  sexuality and  the  possibilities  of sexual
relationships  with personal and communal integrity,  they
are   likely   to  slip  into  patterns   of   separation,
alienation,  being lonely,  and participating in collusive
games  of  mutual self deception.  Such people  are  often
manipulated  and  taken advantage of by other people  like
themselves.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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