This is http://www.essayz.com/a9206151.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %MORAL GUIDE LEAD UNIQUE PERSON INTEGRITY RESPECT 920615 Sometimes overbearing people seek to lay down firm moral and/or ethical rules which they believe should control other people without regard for people's unique characters, abilities, experiences, perceptions, needs, desires, fears, and/or personal relationships. Such rules are especially suspect when they are not clearly related to the reports of personal existential experience of true witnesses who have not been manipulated in coercive ways by overbearing people. People may be helpful by confessing what mistakes they have made and by giving witness to the consequences of the mistakes which they have made. Such confessions and witness are not coercive and may help others to avoid making the same mistakes. Such witness and confessions may help to create a climate in which people feel free to be open and honest with each other. People cannot be helpful by seeking to lay down firm moral and/or ethical rules which they insist other people should be controlled by, without regard for unique aspects of the people who are to be controlled. Manipulative efforts to control people through systems of morality, ethics or laws do not get to the heart of the matter; for they do not helpfully plant guiding insights in people's hearts. Helpful efforts do get to the heart of the matter by planting guiding insights in people's hearts; not by eliciting resentment, guilt, shame, and rebellion through manipulations of one form or another. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================