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 %MUTUAL REFLEXIVE OBJECT SUBJECT HONEST VULNERABLE 911213

     There is a significant difference between being  open
and  honest  with  each other about  OBJECTIVE  facts  and
relationships on the one hand,  and being open and  honest
with each other about REFLEXIVE facts and relationships.

     Being  open  and  honest about  OBJECTIVE  facts  and
relationships  DOES NOT necessarily entail  vulnerability.
Being   open   and  honest  about  reflexive   facts   and
relationships DOES necessarily entail vulnerability.

     It  is essentially impossible to be open  and  honest
with each other about REFLEXIVE facts and relationships in
the  absence  of mutuality,  equality,  and  justice  with
regards  to  vulnerability and power.   In the absence  of
mutuality,    equality   or   justice  with   regards   to
vulnerability and power; self or other are bound to become
defensive,    secretive,   deceptive,   dishonest   and/or
manipulative.

     Any move by self or other to gain control, power,  or
influence through manipulative procedures,  techniques  or
presentations;    is  bound  to  call  into  question  the
prerequisites  for being open and honest with  each  other
about OBJECTIVE facts and relationships.   any move  which
challenges mutuality,  equality or justice with regards to
vulnerability   and   power  calls   into   question   the
prerequisites  for  being open and honest with each  other
about objective facts and relationships.

     Limiting oneself to facts about objects and objective
relationships  is one way of avoiding openness and honesty
about  subjective  facts  and  relationships.     Treating
objects,  objective facts,  and objective relationships as
being   unquestionably  more  reliable,   significant  and
important  than  reflexive  realities;  can be used  as  a
technique for avoiding personal vulnerability as one tries
to  achieve  perfection  in the manipulation  of  objects,
objective  facts,   objective relationships,   and  people
treated  as objects.   Exclusive objectivity thus a danger
signal  to  anybody  who wishes to  avoid  being  violated
through manipulation.   Exclusive objectivity thus elicits
defensive  responses on the part of reflexively perceptive
people  who  seek to maintain their own integrity.    Thus
feminine  people find it difficult to participate  equally
within  compulsively objective professions;  for  feminine
people  have  learned to be reflexively perceptive and  to
avoid unbalanced vulnerability.

     Real  creativity  entails  open and  honest  dialogue
among  creative people.   Real creativity is impossible in
the  absence  of open and honest dialogue  among  creative
people.   No boundaries pertaining to openness and honesty
can  be  creatively  drawn  between  objective  facts  and
relationships  on  the one hand;  and reflexive facts  and
relationships on the other hand.  Any such boundaries when
drawn  are  signs of exclusive objectivity on the part  of
people  who stay on the objective side of the  boundaries;
and  are  thus a danger signal to anybody  who  wishes  to
avoid  being violated through manipulation.  Drawing  such
boundaries thus elicits defensive responses on the part of
reflexively  perceptive people who seek to maintain  their
own  integrity.   Many masculine people have  unilaterally
drawn  such  boundaries.    Thus feminine people  find  it
difficult   to  participate  equally  within  compulsively
objective professions; for feminine people have learned to
be  reflexively  perceptive,   and  to  avoid   unbalanced
vulnerability.    Thus  is creativity  stifled  within the
scientific communities.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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