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%PRETEND LACK NEED CONTROLLED LOVE AFFECTION ACCEPT 911212

     In our efforts to achieve control over aspects of our
lives which  we  cannot  control,  we  often  pretend  (to
ourselves  and to other people)  that we have no need  for
uncontrolled love,  affection and acceptance.

     If we are trying to be in control of all that makes a
great difference to us;  we try to control love, affection
and acceptance.  Yet we discover, much to our frustration,
that   when  we  try  to  control  love,   affection   and
acceptance;  they cease to mean very much to us.  By then,
however,   we have forgotten how to let them mean a  great
deal to us;  and we persist in our futile efforts to be in
control to acquire meaning,  satisfaction, joy,  enjoyment
and happiness. We cannot let go of our perverted technical
paradigm with all of its fixes and fixations.  Thus we are
imprisoned with all our technologies, fixes and fixations;
pretending that they mean a great deal to us, when they do
not.   In our frustration we use/express our technologies,
fixes and fixations in violent self-destructive ways;  and
we lose our personal and communal integrity.  Our  society
has become a technocratic, addictive,  codependent society
imprisoned   in  collusive   games  of   institutionalized
mutual self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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