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   %CONFLICT LOVE JOINT BALANCE INTEGRATIVE WAR JOY 911124

     The process of  Love is a joint  venture within which
people  in    Love   work   together   cooperatively    to
promote   and maintain  their  own,   each other's,    and
their  communal integrity;   in  a balanced way which does
not  compromise their own, any other's,  or their communal
integrity.

     To   compromise   another  person's  integrity,    is
to threaten/compromise   one's   own   integrity,      and
to threaten/compromise the communal integrity.

     To    compromise    one's    own   integrity,      is
to threaten/compromise each other person's integrity,  and
to threaten/compromise the communal integrity.

     To    compromise   the   communal   integrity,     is
to  threaten/compromise   one's   own,    and  each  other
person's integrity.

     To  maintain  our  own  integrity,   another person's
integrity,    or    the   communal   integrity   we   must
constantly   work  to maintain  balance  with   regard  to
the  kind   of   integrity which  is  the   focus  of  our
concern.    In the  absence  of concern about  maintaining
balance with regard to each  and every kind of   integrity
--- "Things Fall Apart"   as described by Acheebe;  people
and communities disintegrate.

     When  we do  not love ourselves  with integrity,   we
cannot love another person with integrity;   and we cannot
work to promote/maintain the communal integrity.

     When  we do not love each other  with integrity,   we
cannot  love  ourselves  with  integrity;   and we  cannot
work  to promote/maintain the communal integrity.

     When  we   do   not  work  to   promote/maintain  the
communal   integrity,   we  cannot  love  ourselves   with
integrity; and we cannot love each other with integrity.

     In   the   absence    of  balance  as   regards   our
integrative concerns,  we lack integrity, joy,  hope,  and
enjoyment.

     In   the   presence   of  balance   as  regards   our
integrative concerns,    we  may enjoy integrity and  hope
together   in  cooperative efforts to be ourselves  joined
with  each other in   being  true  to  ourselves  and   to
each  other   in integrative communities.

     When  we   compromise  the  personal   truths   about
ourselves,  any other  person,    or  our community;    we
do   violence  to ourselves,  to each other,  and  to  our
communities.

     We cannot do  violence  to any  truth;  without doing
violence to ourselves, each other, and our community.

     In  personal  violence   we  disintegrate the  truths
about ourselves,   each other,  and our communities;   and
so   we  disintegrate  ourselves,  each  other,   and  our
communities.

     Personal violence  is dishonest  and  disintegrative;
love is true and integrative.

     Personal    violence   brings   chaos,     confusion,
dishonesty,  forgetfulness  and the disintegration of  our
selves,  each other and our communities.

     Personal violence  and  dishonesty cannot be  used as
tools to promote  our   own,    other  persons',   or  our
communities' integrity;   for violence and dishonesty  are
essentially disintegrative in character.

     War,   terrorism,  aggression,  threats,  resentment,
revenge and their related realities are our true  enemies;
for  they all lead us into doing violence to truths  about
ourselves,   each   other  and  our communities;   and  so
lead   us   into violating ourselves,  each other and  our
communities.

     When   we   show   respect   for  war,     terrorism,
aggression,   threats,  resentment or revenge;  we  invite
ourselves,  each other, and our communities to be violent;
and to lead each other into disintegration.

     The process of  conflict resolution is the process of
Love working in and through us all together to promote our
own,   each   other's,    and  our   communal   integrity.
Conflict  resolution  is not promoting the welfare of  one
person  or persons,  or kind of integrity;  at the expense
of any other person, persons, or kind of integrity; for to
threaten one among them, is to threaten each of the others
among them.

     It does no  one any good to  ignore,  violate,  hide,
conceal,  repress,   or confuse these truths;  for the use
of  such means is in each instance self-defeating, because
in truth we are One.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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